Post # 1
Hi Everyone –
I’m hoping I can post some details on my desire to lose weight and give me some inspiration to actually do something about it. You’d think being engaged and having a wedding would be enough, but unfortunately it’s not. The wedding seems so far off it feels like I have "plenty of time" to get in shape. Two things almost had me in tears yesterday – a dress shop telling me I should have started getting in wedding dress shape "a year before I expected to be engaged" and the fact that our photographer is offering free engagement photos – which is awesome but I’m afraid I’ll look like a house! (Ok its not that bad but still).
Some details – I’m 5’4" and always carry weight in my upper legs and my stomach. Unfortunately I have one of those pouches that has had people ask me if I’m pregnant in the past if I was wearing something clingy. (Ouch). Things got worse last year – I was in a horrible car accident where I couldn’t work out (the little that I did do) for about 4 months – and I’ve put on at least 20 pounds (am right over 160 lbs). I worked out a lot for the first week after I was engaged and then found out I was losing my job, which made me depressed and I just came home and went to bed most days instead of working out – and then even during the time I was unemployed (3 weeks) I didn’t start back up, even though I had time.
I cancelled my gym membership with the unemployment news (regretting that now), I own an elliptical, a kettleball, and some various hand weights. I’ve ordered the 30 day shred program people have raved about and it should be here Weds. I just have to motivate myself to actually do it. I know the morning would probably be best but I can barely drag myself out of bed on time to get to my new job. And by the time I get home in the evening I’m starving, I eat dinner, read weddingbee and pretty much watch tv and do odds and ends til I go to bed (my fiance travels most weeks).
I know I’m probably overblowing this in my head and my fiance says I look fine (though he is brave enough to admit I’m woefully out of shape and says he worries about my future health). I guess I don’t really have a question, just venting about my lack of motivation. 🙁
Post # 3
You know, I too find that sometimes Weddingbee can be a great way to release all of the things you’ve been thinking/going through and know that eventually someone out there is going through the same thing too. Use it!
For me, fitness is definitely a priority and I don’t like to think about how far away (or how close, eek!) the wedding is when motivating myself to get in shape – regardless of numbers on a scale, getting is shape (even if only moderately "better") is the best thing you can do for yourself, your mental health and your wedding! Also, paying for something, whether it be a gym membership or the 30 day shred, always motivates me as I hate to lose money. When your DVD arrives on Wednesday just think that every time you use it its cost per use goes down and that’s "more money you can spend on champagne." This is something that definitely motivates me for a lot of stuff – DIY centerpieces, a borrowed veil, a gym membership – and it’s all about getting your brain on board.
Rather painfully, the rewards of exercise often take awhile to reveal themselves. Unlike chocolate with its instance satisfaction, using that 30-day shred 3 times a week won’t seem to do much until 5-6 weeks from now when you notice some nice, subtle changes. Be patient, wait it out and know that even if you’re inches and pounds aren’t changing, your heart is better for every little thing you do and that eventually other body parts will catch up. (I can confidently say this as a public health professional).
Summing up – don’t give up and do a little bit everyday, even if that’s just an extra lap around the block. Don’t make working out the exception, make it the rule and you’ll be happy you did. Again, just make sure to do something, anything EVERYDAY. Final note, if you can, find a buddy, companionship never hurts, if you can’t, use Weddingbee, it’s a great virtual support system (also, Self.com) – Virtual support rocks!
Post # 4
I’m here in spirit with ya Smokie! I’ve been a baseball mom for the last month..and when Id’ usually workout, there was instead baseball..and the month before that I was really sick off/on..mostly "on" though.
So I’m going back on the wagon yet again tomorrow as the season’s over.
Maybe we can start a "diet buddies" thread or something?
Post # 5
I had the same problem (though no car accidents!) getting in gear to get in shape. I pasted a picture of my wedding dress to my fridge and wrote nothing tastes as good as thin looks and feels and joined WW. 25 lbs later I’m really happy with the results so my advice is to give yourself some tough love, set some goals, hold yourself accountable – maybe find a buddy, and get going!! You can do it 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA
Ugh, reading this just reminds me of my own lack of motivation, so I feel ya! I did a good three weeks of working out at Curves 3-4 times a week, and then pulled something in my ankle, and have taken the past 2 weeks off from working out. Now that today is Monday and my ankle is feeling better, I should go start up the workout routine again, but I’m not sure if I have the motivation. My evil, procrastinating, workout-hating mind keeps whispering things like "You’ve got over a year to get in shape," "Just give yourself another week off, until payday, so it’s easier to pay for the membership renewal," etc.
The problem is, I KNOW that really I only have until August to get in shape, because that’s when I need to start dress shopping. I KNOW I need to start getting in shape, eating better, if not for the wedding, but for my overall health. But will I actually go workout today? I’m still not sure. Ugh.
Post # 7
Thank you!!! I appreciate all of the kind words. And it was motivating! This will probably sound pathetic – but I was able to spend 10 minutes on the elliptical today. I know that probably sounds like nothing to most people but for me after the accident it is huge. I also did some arm weights – and the biggest thing of all – gave up my usual fried chicken/honey mustard salad at lunch for grilled chicken and oil and vinegar dressing.
@bellenga – I would love to be diet buddies!!
Post # 8
I worked out two days in a row! Ok it was another 10 minutes on the elliptical which I know is probably nothing for most people, but it is huge for me! And this is after having to work a 12 hour day!
Post # 9
that’s great…!! keep it up!! i should have started last year but i wasn’t motivated either!