Post # 1
Bees, I starting lurking here once my boyfriend asked me to let him know what kind of ring I wanted, and have loved looking at all of your beautiful rings and getting some inspiration! About two months ago I told him about the rings I liked, and since then I’ve been waiting. I knew he was busy and hadn’t had time to go look so I wasn’t expecting anything soon, until I JUST GOT AN EMAIL CONFIRMING THE RING ORDER! At first I was confused seeing the email thinking it was for a different customer so I just opened it, then I saw his name, the cost, and the cut of the diamond, felt terrible, and immediately closed the email. I’m 99% sure that it was a mistake on the jeweler’s part to send that to me, because he’s mentioned a couple of times how important the surprise element is to him. I emailed my contact at the jeweler to let them know that I got an email from them by mistake, and to send him the confirmation if he hadn’t gotten it and to not let him know I received the email. I was planning to try not to open it again, but the problem is now I can’t stop thinking about it!!! I am SO curious about the setting he chose. I don’t know if I’m hoping that you all will either help me stay strong or tell me to just look at it!
What would you do in this situation?! The suspense is making me crazy!
Post # 2
Wow that’s pretty shitty of the jewelry store, why did they even have your email if you didn’t place the order?
On the bright side at least you know it’s soon! So exciting.
Post # 3
Aww! Delete the email bee. The surprise element is important to your future fiance and you should let him have it. You’ve done well emailing the jeweler and I’m sure you’ve looked enough to get a few details. That’s all you need for now!
Post # 4
How did the jewelry store get your email?
Post # 5
That’s why I opened it right away, I didn’t even think there could be a mistake like that!
I initially emailed with a sales rep when I started looking at their rings. The woman I spoke with asked for my boyfriend’s name so that she would know when he contacted her to match him with the rings she knew I liked. So the only thing I can think is that they had my email address in their customer database with his name attached to it… pretty crazy mixup!
Post # 6
Thank you for this! It is so hard when I am such a type A control freak, but the only thing keeping me from looking is knowing how much it means to him. I have it archived so that I can’t see it in my inbox, because I told myself it would be fun to look up the specs afterwards, but maybe I just need to full on delete…
Post # 7
Delete the email. You will feel worse if you completely ruin the surprise.
Post # 8
Don’t archive it delete it !
you already feel bad you will feel worse if you keep looking at it ..
Post # 9
I agree! Delete it fully. I couldn’t stand it myself and I’d eventually look. Just get rid of it so you don’t have the temptation. They will send that same email to him you said. So you’ll have access to the specs later 🙂
Post # 10
Thank you all! The only friend I told about it was telling me to look lol… OK so how do I distract myself?! I have a feeling the proposal won’t come for at least a couple of weeks, and possibly not until a trip we have planned in 2.5 months. Honestly I am just so so so happy knowing it will happen that I haven’t been thinking at all about the “when”, but now that I can’t obsess about rings I just have no idea what to do with myself!
What kinds of things did y’all do when you knew the proposal was coming but couldn’t do any real planning?
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
You could start obsessing about dresses! lol Maybe start a pinterest board for color ideas, centerpieces, bouquets, bridesmaids dresses? Casually look around online for venues you might be interested in? Early congrats!
Post # 12
Haha!! I know exactly how you feel!! I just got engaged two months ago. I kept myself busy thinking about nail colors and engagement pic ideas and photographers.
Post # 13
Forward it to your friend, then delete it completely from your archive and sent folder. Let her look at it and NOT GIVE YOU DETAILS but let her reassure you that it’s amazing (because we all know it will be!) Just make sure she’s trustworthy enough to not spill the beans. Not even one spec more than you already know needs to be revealed! This way you feel better but the surprise still isn’t ruined.
In the meantime there are a billion things to occupy your thoughts. Pinterest is a great distraction! Lol
Post # 14
Delete the email and never breathe a word to your partner. My partner and I are plannig on getting engaged on our summer vacation in about 2 weeks and I accidentally saw an email on his laptop from the jeweler. I got as far as reading “Have you looked at…” and closed out the window. I thought it would be hard to stay away from snooping around but it hasn’t been.
Now that we’re getting close, and honestly all our friends and family know, I’ve started talking to him about stuff like who might be in our party or what type of venue we like. We’ve got some “wouldn’t it be nice if…” plans but nothing firm decided. Now with just a few weeks left I’m obsessing over nails and what I’m gonna do with mine for our trip.
I definitely want to know everything about the ring later on, but for the first few months (until asking has died down) I don’t want to know anything about size/price/anything. Hold on girl, you can do it!!
Post # 15
I thought about doing that, and the friend I told suggested it, but I’d feel like I was violating his privacy if a close friend knew how much he paid for everything… maybe I’m overthinking that?? But yes Pinterest has been a lifesaver so far!
It’s so good to hear that you’ve also been able to fight the temptation! And omg I feel you on the nails – have you decided what you’re doing? Since I don’t know when it is coming I think I’m going to have to get a mani once a week until this thing happens!