(Closed) Need Opinions Fast !

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would You?
    Not see or talk to him for a while to think : (4 votes)
    8 %
    Try to talk it out more : (22 votes)
    45 %
    Leave him and wait for Mr. Right to come along : (23 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    To me this is something that wouldn’t be worth the fight. You can’t go out with someone to watch your baby. He can’t be there to watch the baby. So why does that mean he shouldn’t go out? I understand that you feel like its not fair that he can do whatever he wants but you both shouldn’t be forced to sit at home since you can’t leave.

    However, when he is able to watch the baby, I would have him do so and you get to chose what you want to do- whether it be to spend time with him or spend time with your friends.

    Post # 3
    Member
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    From reading your other posts before, there’s ALWAYS a problem. ALWAYS. He’s either trying to set up “rules” about how often you can talk to him, him getting upset about something or another, and now apparently he thinks he can do whatever he wants because you’re not there.

    Very immature, and honestly, I’m tired of this guy. You need to get away from him. He’s just a toxic, controlling person, in my opinion. The fact that he feels it would be stupid on your part if you left him makes me want to gag. He thinks he’s “The Man,” but he couldn’t be further from that. He’s a loser.

    I would move on.
    Quick, fast, and in a hurry.

    If he doesn’t care to compromise with you now, don’t expect it later. And don’t expect him to care about your feelings or child, either.

    Good luck!

    Post # 4
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    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I voted that you should “Talk it out”, but then I went back and read your other posts. You deserve WAY better! Mr. Right IS out there, but you won’t find him until you get rid of this guy 🙁 

    I hope everything works out for you. *HUGS*

    Post # 5
    Member
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    looking at your history you havent been 100% ok with things for a while – can i ask why you are in a LDR and how much longer do you expect it to last

    i also voted you should talk it out and i think counselling will help

    Post # 6
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Honestly – looking at this one situation – you are overreacting.  If he is living far away from you, he shouldn’t have to sit at home every evening just because you can’t go out.  That just doesn’t make any logical sense.  He also can (and should) feel a bit slighted when you’d rather hang out with friends than him since you to are in a LDR and don’t see each other often.

    That said – from your post history – it looks like you have way more issues to worry about with this guy and that you aren’t happy.  Cut your losses and move on.

    Post # 7
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    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Torrid: Agree 100000%

     

    @KeshiaSimone: It seems like there is SO much unhappiness surrounding the relationship. Not to mention that he chose to be LD because you were depressed (if I recall correctly). You need to do what is best for you and your daughter and it doesn’t sound like staying in this relationship is what’s best for either you or your daughter. Hoenstly, it sounds to me like he wants a single guy lifestyle and I have doubts about whether he’s really ready to get married or even be engaged.

    Post # 8
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    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think you guys should have a heart to heart talk next time you see each other. Don’t tell him what he’s doing is wrong but instead tell him how it makes you feel and how it hurts you. Tell him you’re not trying to control him – that’s he’s allowed to go out and have fun but it’s also important to balance his “family life” into his life. It’s the mature thing to do…

    Post # 9
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    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Treasure43: I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed the constant unhappiness. Like there is never a moment of peace, just arguing and pain. Do I think he should be able to spend time with his friends? Yes. But like you said, there has to be a balance. LDRs are hard enough to manage, let alone one with a child involved. I also agree that he seems to want to live the single life more than be a father. It’s a very unfortunate situation that the child’s father is a douche, because children need their father…but they don’t need a father that their or their mother’s feelings and needs.

    Post # 10
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    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Torrid: It always makes me sad to see posts where a man is treating his SO like crap and she’s letting it happen. But when children are involved it breaks my heart 🙁

    Post # 12
    Member
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @KeshiaSimone:Take care of yourself, and your child. Everything will fall into place for you. Good luck! <3

    Post # 14
    Member
    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @KeshiaSimone: I know most of us on the board only want what’s best for you and your child! Good luck with everything and @Torrid is right, everything will fall into place 🙂

    Post # 15
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    990 posts
    Busy bee

    me and the ex have this same issue…because i have baby all of the time, he can go and do whatever whenever. unfortunately, because of your situation it pans out this way…get away and live your life for you and your baby…

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