(Closed) Need opinions from an outside uninvested group of people

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is ok to have a traditional ceremony, after legally being married beforehand?
    Yes, given the circumstances as long as everyone you love is in the loop with the situation above : (29 votes)
    81 %
    No, why have an additional wedding after being married already? : (6 votes)
    17 %
    On the fence, unsure about the right call for this one... : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I say Go for Both. Yes youve both been married before but who’s to say what you should and shouldn’t do. I would go ahead and go to the court house, get married and have your traditional cermony when both of you could. I think whatever the couple wants, that’s what they should do and if this is what you both want , then go for it.:) I would wear a wedding dress, walk down the aisle, etc. This is your wedding and the memories are priceless. Go with what makes you both happy and never look back ๐Ÿ™‚ This is just my opinion ๐Ÿ™‚ Hope this helps ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
    430 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

    @Mandysueee:  You do your wedding however you would like to. There are plenty of encore brides here having big weddings with white dresses. There isn’t as much of a stigma as there used to be and I think you two should ignore any naysayers. Walk down the aisle wearing a dress you feel beautiful in. Do your couples dance. Dance with your parents. It’s your wedding. 

    I am currently engaged to an active duty soldier and I completely understand the whole “marriage before the wedding” thing. If you want to ensure that you’re married before either one of you leave, I don’t blame you one bit. If that’s something you need to do, do it. Your family understood the divorce and they will understand this too.

    Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I just had a cousin who had to marry at the courthouse last June (for immigration purposes) then had a big wedding at a church in August.  


    Didn’t matter to any of us.  We were all happy to be able to celebrate their wedding with them!  And, we would have celebrated after the courthouse wedding if that would have been their choice.


    For me the decision should be the couple’s. If it makes THEM happy, then its fine by me!

    Post # 6
    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think getting married and having the wedding later is perfectly fine, especially since you are both in the military. I think it’s really really common for military couples to do that. One of my friends got legally married in December, and is having her wedding in July when her hubby is back from deployment.

    Post # 7
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think this type of situation should always be evaluated on a case by case basis, and I think you should go ahead and get married now and then celebrate however you’d like later. 

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