Post # 1
I’m getting kind of frustrated with this whole finding a venue thing… They are either crazy expensive, crazy strict with their rules or booked for my date!
I’ve come up with 2 options that might work for me, but I wanted to know your opinions, if you were a guest at my wedding. For reference, at least 50% of my guests are out-of-towners and probably 20% of those are international.
Option 1: Use my friend’s horse farm. It’s a gorgeous location, nearish my house and available any date I want, plus it would fit my theme. However, it would require me to rent EVERYTHING (tent, tables, chairs, etc). My two biggest concerns here are being a burden on her and her family and out-of-town guests. It’s in a typical suburban area, with few or no hotels and no fun things to do without a car. It’s within about 40 minutes of Atlanta.
Option 2: Rent a house on the lake for the weekend. I found this house that would hold up to 40 people, so all of my friends and family could stay with us! I was thinking Thursday – Sunday, with the wedding on Saturday. It’s right on the lake, with a nice flat lawn in front. I’d still have to rent everything, but it would be an easy option for out-of-town guests, as their place to stay would be set (they would have to pay some). However, this option is about 2 hours from Atlanta, where most of my local guests would be coming from.
As a guest, which would you prefer? I don’t want my out-of-towners to be bored or uncomfortable, but I also don’t want to exclude my local guests!
Post # 3
If it was me I would go with the horse farm. Forty minutes outside of Atlanta isn’t bad. They can stay in atlanta where there is lots to do. Maybe you could arrange for a passenger van to bring people out for the ceremony? I feel like most people would rent a car anyway. I know I would.
My sister rented a lodge for her out of town guests but most chose to either drive home or stay somewhere else. She only had 3 takers out of 50+ guests. It was a huge waste of money. She had asked the people that would be staying there to help cover the cost at $25 a night per room figuring she would get at least a couple of hundred to defray costs. Nope all those rooms sat empty. She said if she was to do it over she wouldn’t have rented it or if she did she would have made a movie of this gorgeous place to show people. I guess people were afraid it was a dump because it was out in the country. City people! LOL (just kidding)
Post # 4
if you’re only really getting the lake to provide accomodations, I wouldn’t do it. Use the horse farm. If she offered it, I’m sure she understands the undertaking of such an event. Set aside a block of rooms at the nearest hotel, or in Atlanta and look into renting a school bus to shuttle the guests to the reception. That’s what we’re doing, even though its only 4 miles from the hotel. But if your family enjoy adult beverages, most buses will let you drink on the bus which I’m sure will make the ride more enjoyable. It’s not as ‘fancy’ but its more affordable than like a limo bus or something. Personally I wanted to do an outside wedding like this and my future uncle in law offered his farm but I had the same issues – no hotel nearby and the cost of renting everything. I didn’t want to deal with the hassel so we found a place that does it all for us.
Post # 5
@retroindigo: I think the lake is gorgeous and I love the idea of a mini vacation with my friends and family, with a wedding in the middle!
My main concern of both is the comfort of the guests. I have at least 10 people coming from Europe, many of whom have never been to the US before and won’t come just for the weekend. I want them to enjoy their time and not have to deal with too much hassle. But then again, I don’t want to exclude my local guests by having the wedding so far away that they won’t drive.
There are NO decent hotels within about 20 minutes of the horse farm, so we’d probably have to have guests stay in Atlanta and provide transportation (which is an option, but expensive). Both venues are equally beautiful in different ways and would be more or less equal in cost.
Post # 6
Is it on Lake Lanier? Oconee? I’m intrigued.
I will say that I would go with the horse farm – it’s definitely going to be cheaper for you and I take it you’d have to provide linens, etc etc, for either event since neither is a “traditional” facility. Whaddya know, neither is mine! (And btw – your date is my original date AND we’re from Atlanta too. Heh.) Anyways.
You can find pretty good deals on the things you’d have to provide and, while nice, I don’t find it necessary for you to provide the place to stay for your guests. They’re adults, they can handle it, especially with a few good suggestions by you and your groom.
Post # 7
@AmeliaBedelia: Oconee. If it was on Lanier, I wouldn’t be so concerned, since many of my local guests live in Gwinnett. It’s not so much me providing a place to stay (they would have to pay some for the house), just that there is nothing nearby (the farm is in Snellville). Are you frustrated too with the lack of good wedding venues that don’t charge an arm and a leg? Where are you getting married?
Post # 8
@BambeeBliss: Ha oh girl you should have read some of my posts when I was venue shopping. I was like efffffff this. We looked at a lot of places and they were either ugly or expensive. :/ We looked at The Vines – that was a mistake. SO pretty but really? Over 3K just to BE here? Lol.
We’re getting married at a place called the Locust Grove Event Center it’s in, you guessed it, Locust Grove down off of 75 South (FI lived a few towns over) and we are getting it for $950 since FI’s dad works for the county there. It’s originally $1200 which isn’t bad either! It’s a beautiful ballroom, but we have to make it work for both ceremony and reception (the only drawback). However, we’re providing all linens and flatware, etc, and I’ve been searching for the BEST deals – plates for $1! And I’m looking on Weddingbee and CL for linens, but I also found a website that has pretty great prices if I can’t find any better deals.
Oconee is pretty far from Atlanta though, I would be wary of doing that. Snellville does have some pretty good hotels and things to do, so for that reason alone I think it would be at least a slightly better option. Oconee is just kind of way out there in the middle of nowhere.
Post # 9
Have you checked out The Tisinger House? It’s only an hour from Atlanta and it’s still close to east Alabama. Check it out http://www.thetisingerhouse.com