(Closed) Need opinions/advice about our bar

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which would you rather see at a wedding

    Open beer and wine bar

    full bar available but guest pay for the drinks

  • Post # 3
    336 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Being as a I don’t have the “Oh it’s free-I’ll take it” mentality, I don’t mind paying for a drink or 2 if I really want one. I don’t find it “trashy” or “classless” as I am sure other people are going to tell you. A wedding is about love and happiness not “how much can we get.” But that is just me 🙂

    BUT-I think it depends on how much of your guest list are drinkers. If less than 1/2 are not really big on drinking, I think I would just stick to the beer and wine.

    Post # 4
    3450 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d do a cash bar, so people can get what they want.  I’ve only been to a couple of weedings where it was open bar the entire night.

    Post # 5
    9160 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

     I would prefer to see beer wine and soft drinks only or a dry wedding than a cash bar. I fall in the provide what you can and don’t make your guests open their wallet at your party category.

    Post # 6
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Could you perhaps do both? Bring in your own beer and wine, and then have a cash bar for the mixed drinks, or is that not possible? 

    I’d say probably you should go with the free beer and wine. It’s cheaper for you anyway, but sometimes you’ll get those people who bring in their own flasks anyway.. 

    Post # 7
    3323 posts
    Sugar bee

    Host what you can afford. Don’t offer what you can’t. It is the most polite way to approach it. Don’t charge guests for upgrades.

    Post # 8
    23589 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ll admit, I voted before I read your situation!  Given your situation, I think a cash bar will be totally okay.

    Post # 10
    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    So if it’s beer and wine, there’s no bartender?


    Just my opinion, but I don’t think guests should open their wallets at a party you’re hosting.

    Post # 12
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Totally go with the beer, wine, and soda option! It will make you really great hosts to provide alcohol for free, and I’m SURE your guests will appreciate it and be just fine without the liquor or mixed drinks. I went to a wedding that did wine and beer, and no one complained at all. 

    Post # 13
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d go with beer and wine bar; I know cash bars are common, but I still think it’s a little off-putting for the guests to have to pay for drinks except in very specific circumstances (i.e. local liquor law will not allow for an open bar).

    Maybe consider doing a massive batch of sangria as a signature drink that will help give that “mixed drink” feel for the folks who aren’t huge wine drinkers?  This can also help keep the costs under control as sangria can be made with fairly cheap wine (just taste it first, because truly crappy wine will make for truly crappy sangria) and often has a lot of mixer/filler in it.

    I used to work in a Basque restaurant where we did a champagne sangria; it had pears, peaches, and grapes instead of the traditional apple/orange/lime, a little simple syrup, and some club soda. It was delicious. You could get really creative with pear nectar or other juices in the mix. Because you don’t want to loose the bubbles, you’d make your base of fruit and sugars in advance, and fill pitchers with the base and champagne and club soda right before it’s served. Very easy and very elegant.

    Post # 14
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @fishbone:  I like this suggestion. We did beer, wine, soda & 2 signature cocktails. The signature drinks didn’t add much to the budget, and we had whiskey & vodka on hand in case anyone wanted a mixed drink (like vodka & soda or whiskey & coke) and it added very little to our overhead. Pre-mixed punch or sangria would be nice, too, for people who don’t like beer & wine. Personally, though, I think just beer & wine is enough & will please most people.

    Post # 16
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Im not offended by cash bars. They are the norm in the UK, if there is ever ‘free’ drinks its a nice touch as a guest.


    If you do beer and wine, your guest will be grateful not to have to reach into their pockets. While it doesnt make much difference to your costing, it will ultimately cost everyone else more if you have a full stock cash bar.



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