Post # 1
Hey Bee’s I need your “attending the wedding” opinions.
So if you were attending a wedding would you rather have a open bar of just beer and wine or a cash bar with a full bar?
Basically we have two options.
Bring in our own beer and wine for everyone and pay 4 dollars a person to do so
or we can have a fully stocked cash bar, which will cost us 6 dollars per person + another 200$ to pay for the bartenders.
That being said, both come out to roughly the same amount of money for us the question is which would our guest rather have? Free beer and wine or pay for there drinks but have whatever they would like to drink.
If we could afford a full open bar we would in a heartbeat but its just not in the budget 🙁
Im torn and not sure what to do. Of course my love for long island ice teas may have me a bit biased so im looking to you guys for help.
Post # 3
Being as a I don’t have the “Oh it’s free-I’ll take it” mentality, I don’t mind paying for a drink or 2 if I really want one. I don’t find it “trashy” or “classless” as I am sure other people are going to tell you. A wedding is about love and happiness not “how much can we get.” But that is just me 🙂
BUT-I think it depends on how much of your guest list are drinkers. If less than 1/2 are not really big on drinking, I think I would just stick to the beer and wine.
Post # 4
I’d do a cash bar, so people can get what they want. I’ve only been to a couple of weedings where it was open bar the entire night.
Post # 5
I would prefer to see beer wine and soft drinks only or a dry wedding than a cash bar. I fall in the provide what you can and don’t make your guests open their wallet at your party category.
Post # 6
Could you perhaps do both? Bring in your own beer and wine, and then have a cash bar for the mixed drinks, or is that not possible?
I’d say probably you should go with the free beer and wine. It’s cheaper for you anyway, but sometimes you’ll get those people who bring in their own flasks anyway..
Post # 7
Host what you can afford. Don’t offer what you can’t. It is the most polite way to approach it. Don’t charge guests for upgrades.
Post # 8
I’ll admit, I voted before I read your situation! Given your situation, I think a cash bar will be totally okay.
Post # 9
Im taking the general consensuses as providing beer wine and soft drinks only is the way to go.
We can’t do both unfortunately, its either hosted bar or cash bar.
Im so use to paying for drinks at a wedding, I never really thought of it being bad form to have a cash bar, but your right “charging” my guest for there drinks kinda sucks.
We also only have till 10pm since were getting married at the zoo and then were going out on the town after so people who want hard alcohol can get it then i guess.
Thanks everyone you guys are awesome!
Post # 10
So if it’s beer and wine, there’s no bartender?
Just my opinion, but I don’t think guests should open their wallets at a party you’re hosting.
Post # 11
@PinkPinstripes: No theres a bartender when we host it too (its included in the 4$ perperson fee , we just dont have a “cash bar fee” which includes extra hours for the bartender. Its ridiculous the way they have the bar option set up, but it is what it is i guess.
Post # 12
Totally go with the beer, wine, and soda option! It will make you really great hosts to provide alcohol for free, and I’m SURE your guests will appreciate it and be just fine without the liquor or mixed drinks. I went to a wedding that did wine and beer, and no one complained at all.
Post # 13
I’d go with beer and wine bar; I know cash bars are common, but I still think it’s a little off-putting for the guests to have to pay for drinks except in very specific circumstances (i.e. local liquor law will not allow for an open bar).
Maybe consider doing a massive batch of sangria as a signature drink that will help give that “mixed drink” feel for the folks who aren’t huge wine drinkers? This can also help keep the costs under control as sangria can be made with fairly cheap wine (just taste it first, because truly crappy wine will make for truly crappy sangria) and often has a lot of mixer/filler in it.
I used to work in a Basque restaurant where we did a champagne sangria; it had pears, peaches, and grapes instead of the traditional apple/orange/lime, a little simple syrup, and some club soda. It was delicious. You could get really creative with pear nectar or other juices in the mix. Because you don’t want to loose the bubbles, you’d make your base of fruit and sugars in advance, and fill pitchers with the base and champagne and club soda right before it’s served. Very easy and very elegant.
Post # 14
@fishbone: I like this suggestion. We did beer, wine, soda & 2 signature cocktails. The signature drinks didn’t add much to the budget, and we had whiskey & vodka on hand in case anyone wanted a mixed drink (like vodka & soda or whiskey & coke) and it added very little to our overhead. Pre-mixed punch or sangria would be nice, too, for people who don’t like beer & wine. Personally, though, I think just beer & wine is enough & will please most people.
Post # 15
@fishbone: I didn’t even think of Sangria! that’s a killer idea. Our caterers are super strict though so we wouldn’t be able to bring it in our selves. We can’t bring in anything that’s open, so for example we cant bring in a huge thing of premade lemonade, but we can bring in sodas and what not because they are closed bottles/cans. If that makes any sense. However it’s something to talk to the caterer about and see if they could possibly provide it for us. Thanks! such a great idea
We wanted to do signature drinks, because it wouldnt cost us a whole lot more on the “alcohol” side of things, but if we want to do even a limited amount of sigature drinks the price just to have the bar goes up to 6 dollars a person. So its more in alcohol and more in bar fees.
Seriously this stupid bar may be the death of me.
Post # 16
Im not offended by cash bars. They are the norm in the UK, if there is ever ‘free’ drinks its a nice touch as a guest.
If you do beer and wine, your guest will be grateful not to have to reach into their pockets. While it doesnt make much difference to your costing, it will ultimately cost everyone else more if you have a full stock cash bar.