(Closed) Need proof readers and some timing help!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Double post

Post # 4
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would do the sand ceremony before the vows.  Have the celebrant explain what a sand ceremony is and invite the people who are going to participate to come up to the front.

Why are the vows said twice? I would just do the version where you say it to eachother.

Post # 5
2701 posts
Sugar bee

I would do the sand ceremony before the exchange of the rings. Your officiant can say his part, and then it would feel more natural for the sand ceremony since it is symbolically a unity ceremony. I think it would be odd to walk straight up the aisle, pour the sand and then do vows.

Officiant part

Sand ceremony

Exchange of rings

Proclamation of husband and wife

That’s my vote anyway

Post # 7
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think what you have is nice, but is that the whole ceremony?  We are doing a non-religious ceremony, and the officiant sent us vows to choose from.  I think it would be nice if the ceremony was a little more unique to you and your Fiance as a couple, instead of the standard stuff you always hears.   Below are the different vows she sent us.  We modified the last set and are using those.



, promise you,

before family and friends,

to commit my love to you,

to respect your individuality;

to be with you through life’s changes;

and to nurture and strengthen the love between us,

for as long as we both shall live.



, take you

, to be my husband,

my friend, my love, and my lifelong companion.

To share my life with yours,

To build our dreams together,

to support you through times of trouble,

and to rejoice with you in times of happiness.

I promise to treat you with respect, love and loyalty

through all the trials and triumphs of our lives together.

This commitment is made in love, kept in faith,

lived in hope, and eternally made new.



, take you,

, to be no other than yourself.

Loving what I know of you,

trusting what I do not yet know,

I will respect your integrity and have faith in your abiding love for me,

through all our years, and in all that life may bring us.



, do take you, —-,To be the husband of my days,

 the companion of my house,The friend of my life,

 and the father of our children.We shall bear together whatever trouble and sorrow life may lay upon usAnd we shall share together whatever good and joyful things life may bring us With these words and with all the words of my heart

 I now marry you and bind my life to yours.


We are also including the following readings: 

The Art of Marriage

A good marriage must be created.

In the art of marriage the little things are the big things –-

It is never being too old to hold hands.


It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once each day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

 It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is not only marrying the right partner –

It is being the right partner.

~Unknown Author


My Friend

I love you not only for what you are

but for what I am when I am with you.

I love you not only for what you have made of yourself

but for what you are making of me.

I love you because you have done more than any creed

could have done to make me good,

and more than any fate

could have done to make me happy.

You have done it without a touch,

without a word

without a sign.

You have done it

by being yourself.

~ by Jose Marti


ETA:  the sand should happen after your vows & ring exchange and the intro should be a sentence or so about what you are doing. 

Post # 10
2701 posts
Sugar bee

@Crisark: No. The vows itself, (to me anyway), are not repeated. Usually at the ceremonies I have attended, it is started by the officiant stating something about marriage and then the bride and groom saying a little message to each other. I do not consider this message the actual vows, I consider the words you say as you exchange rings, your vows.

So to me, if sounds quite nice actually.

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