- 10 years ago
Ive been reading the amazing wedding bee for a few months as my bf and I have decided to get married summer of 2012.We have been dating on and off for 6 years and I am so excited to get married and spend our lives together. My hesitation and reason for posting here is because I fell uncomfortable getting engaged this young, I am 24 about to turn 25. He is 28 and has been ready for a while. I have been adamat about waiting till I turn 25 to get engaged and wanted to be 27 when I got married but I might be 26.
ANYWAYS I thought the proposal was coming late fall/ winter of this year which I was totally fine with, I would be over 25 and for some strange reason that feels better to me. Problem is I think my bf may be proposing on my bday in a few weeks (he is horrible at surprises and has given a few kind of obvious clues). Not only do I want him to wait just a few more months, but I really didnt want a proposal on a holiday. I know I am being a little controlling and crazy about this by putting all these rules and expectations on something that is kind of his thing. Ive also given him many rules about the ring.
So my question to you all is – should I tell him straight up or give him a kind of hint like “ive been reading all these wedding blogs and I really want our engagement to fall on a special day, not a day that is already special bc its a holiday or something” OR should I just let him control this part of things and let go? I know if he does propose on my bday I will be thrilled and just get over all these hesitations but I also feel like its a shared experience and if I know what I want I should tell him.
Has anyone else felt this pre-engagement awkwardness? And anyone have advice for me??
Thanks! And looking forward to posting in here whenever I get engaged!