(Closed) Need serious help re: guest book attendant??

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmmm.. I understand your concern, but I think you are worrying way too much.  I’d invite her to your shower and bachelorette (if you are having them) and include her in some of the wedding pictures.  And if you travel anywhere to take pictures or do anything inbetween the ceremony and reception, I’d invite her along too.  I don’t see anything wrong with her doing a reading, but I also don’t think it’s necessary.  I definitely wouldn’t have her be a guest book attendent though – it really is a crap job. 

Honestly, there are only so many opportunities to honor someone during your wedding and odds are you won’t be able to include everyone you want. I’m sure she won’t be upset if you are unable to include her.

 

 

 

Post # 4
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Newbee

@RunsWithBears:  I agree with RunsWithBears. Except I’d probably do a double of each photo she’s in – one with and one with ohuh just to play it safe. 

Post # 5
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5191 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@tirralirra:  I feel like an idiot asking this but what is a guest book attendant?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t worry about your possible Future Sister-In-Law not feeling included.  Just make sure she’s invited to the proper pre-wedding activities and you’ll be fine.  It can be really nice to just be a guest at a wedding without duties, even if you are close to the bride.

I agree with the what you’ve read about guest book attendants.  It’s a stupid BS job, and no one needs to be standing there telling people to sign it.  Everyone knows what a guest book is for.  They will sign it if they want to, and they won’t if they don’t.

I’m doing a reading for a friend’s wedding this month and she randomly asked me a bit later if I could also hand out programs.  In the same breath, she also said “or we could just put them in a basket instead”.  I told her to put them in a basket.  Same idea.  BS job.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Aquaria:  

@Honeyblood:  

A guest book attendent is someone who stands by the guest book and makes sure people sign it.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

do whatever you want based on your relationship right now and not what may or may not happen in the future.  who cares if other people don’t agree!  

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@RunsWithBears:  ok thanks. Really? People are actually designated to do that? I would think a book with blank pages and a pen is pretty self explanatory. Why is an attendant needed?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@RunsWithBears:  +1

Yea you are definitely overthinking this.  No one is going to be thinking afterwards if they were to break up like oh no she read the reading at his sister’s wedding, so awkward! It would only be awkward if they broke up before the wedding and you still had her do the reading, ha!

I do agree on taking a picture without her.  I would try to do the picture without her first and then ask her to join, I think that order just makes it a little less awkward/obvious what you are doing. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Aquaria:  Hahaha, exactly!  That’s why guest book attendent is such a crap job.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

@RunsWithBears:  oh jeez. I pray no one ever asks me to be that person… Surely it just means you can’t have fun and have to spend what should be a fun night with a book?

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