Post # 1
I broke up with my ex last April, and immediately got into my current relationship. My current Boyfriend or Best Friend is definitely “the one”. I know after less than a year that seems silly, but sometimes you just know. I am constantly amazed by how well every aspect of our personalities connects, and even when we don’t, how well we work it out. I really feel lucky to have found such an amazing guy.
Anyways, I completely severed ties with my ex immediately. I accidentally talked to him once. My phone is also my work phone. I had deleted my ex from my contacts, and when he called several months later, I thought it was a business call. Whoops. Needless to say it was a short convo. Fast forward to last night. I received a text from what is now saved in my phone as “DNA” saying “Are you really happy?” I’m wondering if I should even respond…and if I do, what should I say? Ummm, yes I’m happy! I kinda want to write back, “Who is this?” So that he gets the idea that he’s written out of my life. What do you girls think?
Post # 3
I like the “who is this” response but sometimes just not responding helps him get the message.
Or what about answering, “Yes I am, why, who is this?” That way he gets that you are happy and he gets that he is out of your life.
Post # 4
Personally I’d just ignore it. If you reply to it in any way he might think you might want to continue staying in touch with him and if you want to sever all contact I’d just not reply to him at all.
Post # 5
good point littlemissmoo That’s what I was thinking. But a little piece of me still wants to get that dig in. I know it’s childish. I’ll resist the urge.
Post # 6
I would ignore it, but I’m the sort of person to nuke bridges once I burn them. He doesn’t need to know how your life is going.
If you weren’t ever involved with him, would you have even known him? Because if he is just some guy you met through x/y/z, then it’s not like he’s a childhood friend.
Then again, I’m wary of talking to people I don’t care for, I don’t trust them not to blab to everyone else about my life.
Post # 7
DON’T ANSWER BACK!! My ex also still texts and calls once in a while and I’ve been engaged 8 months (together w/ fi for 2 yrs). I never answer back because I know he’ll try to continue that conversation. So it’s best to leave it alone…he’ll get the idea!
Post # 9
@Miss Biner, I totally get wanting to get that dig in. Wait until after your married and then if he wants to text you then you can always reply “I’m doing great! I got married!”. That’ll scare him off! 😛
Post # 10
I wouldn’t respond. It might give him a bridge to get back in your life, and that’s something you definitely don’t want.
Post # 11
I would say that he is just trying to get into your head and I wouldnt give him any window to continue with what he wants to say. I would ignore him, who cares if he knows your happy or not. If he knows you are marring this guy, he will find out some other way that you are happy.
Post # 12
I know exactly how you feel, technically the night before I told my ex-fi I was leaving was the day Jason asked me to be his girlfriend. some people thought I left my ex for Jason, and I honestly didn’t, it just happened that he was there. I would have left anyway.
And people also don’t understand because they think it happened so fast, but my ex cheated on me in January and our relationship was already starting to deteriorate at that point, so then it quickly fell apart… But I stayed with him until JULY! By then I had already moved on mentally. so it didn’t seem like i was jumping into another relationship. and Jason and I work out so perfectly, it’s insane!
As for your ex, I would ignore it. I try to have minimal/no contact with my ex (we live in a small town so it’s hard) and as much as I want to rub in the fact that I am so happy and my life is going great, I try to just ignore if he says anything. Although I did drunkenly send him a message pretty much thanking him for being an a**hole because now I can really appreciate what I have, and if he hadn’t I would have never met Jason. But oh well… He never responded back 🙂
Post # 13
@o0olibelulao0o The situation you describe is almost identical to mine except I wasn’t cheating on my ex was keeping me in the situation with threatening to kill himself etc. I just had to leave and my Fiance and I had been friends forever so it just worked. Our relationship is so great but yea back to the situation at hand.
I would ignore the text I tried to be ‘nice’ to my ex and he just kept trying to create bridges to my life and its like NO i don’t want you in my life go away, newho thats my $.02
Post # 14
@o0olibelulao0o Our situation is almost identical! I’m so glad that I’m not the only one out here. Luckily our close friends and family are awesome. Lots of times, they sit back and can’t believe that we’ve only been together for 8 months…we work so well, that no one can imagine us not being together. It’s exciting to find that kind of love.
Thanks ladies for your advice. The text has been deleted.