- 7 years ago
Im new here so hopefully ive put this in the right place, sorry if I havnt. Sorry its so long but please help me out! (Just posted this in “waiting” lol but think it should do better here.
Basically im not yet engaged but my bf and I have spoken about it alot, originally we wanted to be engaged by now and married at the end of the year. Due to finances though we have had to put it to a later date, I think the engagement will be soon as he has sort of hinted it will be, but Im not guessing when because Ive got my hopes up too many times before lol! and i feel like im taking the romance out of it, so im keeping quiet til it happens 🙂
Heres my current issue though.. he said he has been looking for months for the right ring but none have stood out to him that i would love (within the budget anyway).. unfortunately I kind of love a setting that with diamonds is very expensive, so I found this beautiful white gold one that I really do adore, and we went to the shop and I tried it on. But, its not diamonds, its CZs. Now, Im not a materialistic person at all, and this ring is stunning I feel, he loved it too and said it looked great on my finger.
However I didnt really know what CZs were at the time and didnt think about it much til I got home and researched it and found out people tend to view them as “fake”.. but I wouldnt be flaunting it as diamonds, I would admit to it being CZs if someone asked because I really couldnt care less, I love it. What I am concerned about though is, do they really cloud over and not last long? I know they have different qualities of CZs but I dont know what quality this is as it doesnt show me the info on the ring description.And I know it could be upgraded or repaired but 1) that could get annoying/be expensive? and 2) im a very sentimental person so I would love to have the same ring as on the day he proposed.
I would obviously take alot of care of it, but Im worried about it not lasting very well,and being so scared I might scratch the CZs when im doing everyday things. I cant find out much about them since I can never seem to get past comments of “i would never want a CZ engagement ring” lol so I havent found out much about them. Although now, Ive relooked at a ring on the internet that before I wasnt that keen on due to a slight design in the setting that I didnt think I liked.. so I never tried it on, but looking at the picture now I actually think its rather pretty, and its also diamonds not CZs.. not sure I love it as much at the moment but ive never tried it on so im not sure.. the price isnt too bad either, but it is double the CZ one.
My bf said he doesnt mind the price, when I showed him the CZ one he said he was shocked as he was looking for ones 4 or 5 times the price! lol! what a sweetie. But the thing is I dont know what to do, he has now told me he knows how he is going to propose and he is planning it all, but he hasnt asked my dad yet and I dont know if he has bought the ring.. he said when we were ring shopping if I dont like it or want something different to what I thought dont be scared to let him know, but that was way before he may have purchased it.. so how do i approach this? I feel bad taking him back to the shops yet again and trying on more rings, I know it feels pressured, and the staff are pushy sometimes. Do i suggest I want to try it on? Do i ask if he has bought the other ring? Or do i ignore it and not try it on. I dont want him to feel I no longer want the CZ one if he has already bought it, because I do love it to bits, but I think the other on may be better longterm and more durable?
Im so indecisive!
Please help bees! 🙂 thanks