Post # 1
So i recently just got accepted for 2 jobs. I must pick between the two.
Job #1 is something ive always wanted to do since im not currently practicing in my career. Its a Bridal Consultant at a pretty high end salon. The owner is a family friend of mine whom ive known since i was very young. The job is decent pay but located 30 miles (60 roundtrip) from home… which isnt out of the ordinary around here…. the hours are set in stone. I would do 3 months of training then im able to work on my own, i already know this position will open many opportunities for me in the future considering my background is with the beauty industry.
Job #2 is far less glamourous. Just a cashier job but is located 2 miles from home. Min wage. very strick guidelines and policies. brand new store so its gonna be hectic getting it up and running…..and i could be working any shift 1st , 2nd, or 3rd at any different day. nothing is set in stone when I will work.
Darling Husband instantly threw a shit fit when i told him I may not take the job close to home, since job #1 is way more beneficial for me in the future. It could open some amazing doors for me and get me back into the business i love.
I know what I want to do, but im asking others opinions; perhaps im not being logical?
thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 4
I would go for #1. The drive will suck, but it sounds like it will open more doors – both of these jobs sound like stepping stones to me, so you kind of have to ask yourself which way you want to go.
Post # 5
im leaning towards #1. I was asked in the past when i worked at the salon located next door to them to do the makeup for their bridal magazine they put out twice a year. its a huge honor to be able to do that!
Post # 6
I don’t understand why Darling Husband is against Job #1–is it just the commute? Do you share a car and this would impact him directly in some way? I’m just having trouble seeing his point of view.
If taking Job#1 won’t pose a financial hardship on your household, I say take the one that’s going to get you where you ultimately want to be.
Post # 7
job #1 for sure.. it will make you happy and pay off in the long run.
Post # 8
Absolutely job #1. Shouldn’t even be a question, IMO. It will do so much more for you than job #2 (and I’d bet make you much happier).
Post # 9
I would never, or at least not unless there was NO other choice, do a job for the convenience when I had one that I would love and want. IMO settling on something for money/convenience is a sure way to be miserable!
Post # 10
30 minutes is not much of a commute. Why would your husband be upset at you for wanting to take an apparently better job over a kinda dead end casher minimum wage one just because its closer. Sorry, doesnt make any sense to me.
Post # 11
Can you explain further why your husband is so upset about the prospect of you taking job 1? Less time together? More money spent on gas? I’m just confused because this seems like a no brainer to me to take the better job. 30 miles is really not that far.
Post # 12
Umm Job number 1 all the way- is the only downside the commute? Because if so it is no question to me
Post # 13
#2 will contribute nothing to your future but stress. Don’t know why your hubby doesn’t get this.
Post # 14
I dont understand why he got so upset about it today… it honestly shocked me and was kinda hurtful that he wasnt supportive.
At the moment im a stay at home wife. He makes enough that I dont “have” to work. So money isnt really an issue. We dont share vehicles since we each have our own.
The commute isnt an issue because we live in a very rural area. Anywhere you go, your gonna drive at least 20-30 mins. that store is one of the only close ones around lol it was just convenient they opened it here.
I dunno what the deal is but im going to get to the bottom of it tonight.
He was not supportive of me going to hairschool either. He said it was a “waste of time, and stylist dont make any money” I did it anyway because thats what i have a passion for. I love everything about the beautywedding industry. Ive not regretting it once.
Im probably gonna go with #1, its kind of a no brainer for me. He can be mad if he wants to, he’ll get over it! haha
Post # 15
please don’t pass up a job you’d love for a dead end retail job. get satellite radio and enjoy the longer commute.
and also, just because you don’t “need” to work moneywise*, doesn’t mean you don’t need it for your own growth and development. what does a stay at home wife do???? sounds very betty draper. get out there and live and stay home when you have kids 🙂
*who doesn’t need more money? don’t spend your money on “things”– maybe triple your mortgage payments, build up a huge nest egg.
Post # 16
Im just a housewife off and on… (i mostly work in the fall and winter and take summer off lol) I enjoy being a housewife but i love to work as well. It was my choice to stay home. While I dont regret it I dont want to pass up a great opportunity for myself.
I enjoy making my own money and not feeling guilty about spending it on whatever I want. I have a great husband honestly. He has always let me do what i want, and all that jazz ,we have always been very responsible with money and have basically no debt other than our house and monthly bills such as water, electric, cell phones etc…. i guess thats why i was hurt when he said that….