Post # 1
So here is my dilemma…I have a friend that I have known my entire life. I got engaged last October and during that time and the initial wedding planning period we hadn’t spoken in a while; I have already chosen my wedding party. Now we have rekindled our friendship and would love to have her a part of my wedding, and really regret not having chosen her as a bridesmaid. How can I have her as a part of my wedding? What do you bees think?
Post # 3
Could you ask her to do a reading during the ceremony? Or a toast at the reception? Or ask her to be the MC for the evening announcing toasts, first dance etc.
Post # 4
@Miss Ridingheart: You could ask her to do toasts or something, but that may be a bit awkward since you’ve been out of touch. Not everyone likes public speaking. If I were you, I’d just let her know that you’d really love her to come to the wedding. Unless it was a really good friend, I wouldn’t be all that excited to do wedding duties, to be honest.
Post # 5
some people have a personal attendent that is with them when they’re getting ready and downstairs at the church and is kind of by their side the whole time. that person is not a bridesmaid but is still part of the wedding party and can be listed on the program and everything. BUT you need to be careful that this is a person who you want to be around when you are super anxious and is an unselfish person with their time otherwise it won’t be fun for either of you.
asking her to do a reading is pretty failsafe!
Post # 6
You still have time to ask her to be a bridesmaid, if you want. Your wedding is still a ways off. Maybe your future hubby can add someone to make the sides even?
Post # 7
I say ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. My Maid/Matron of Honor had asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for her after another girl declined due to other obligations, this all happened months and months before the wedding, and we had just started getting back in touch with eachother, so I understood. Come the actual wedding and people questioned afterwards why I wasn’t her Maid/Matron of Honor since we had been so close in high school and even afterwards for yrs, we had only lost touch for 2 yrs due to life getting busy from school and jobs, and now since we reconnected we’re back to being “attached at the hip”. If she was a close friend and is becoming one again, go ahead and ask her, I’m sure she will be understanding and happy to be a part of your day.