(Closed) Need some advice!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In My Humble Opinion you have to invite her, she is family. It also seems as though this will cause a huge rift in the family, and especially since it’s HIS family, not yours, I say just invite.

Post # 4
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You really do have to invite her as hard as that is for you. Sorry. 

Post # 5
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4930 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Invite her and hope she doesn’t come… or at least acts like a civilized adult on your big day. Give someone in your FH’s family a heads-up about what she’s said to you. Hopefully they’ll make sure she stays in line. 

Post # 6
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Lots of drama surrounding facebook in that family.  Invite her, drop the entire family from your facebook (I’m not kidding…do it), and get ready to deal with them for the rest of your life.   

Post # 7
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m so sorry for you, unfortunately you have to invite her, she’s family. It would be different if your Fiance was the one not wanting to invite her, but you can’t decide to go down that road. It will cause nothing but drama, and his family will never forgive you for not inviting her. Also the brother is in the wedding, you’re kinda stuck. Just suck it up and be the bigger more mature person, and limit contact with her on your day.

Post # 8
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I will agree with all PP and say that you kind of don’t have an option- you must invite her, or cause a huge family rift. I would also recommend defriending her, or blocking her from commenting on your facebook if you don’t want to “defriend” family. (I have a group of people who I know professionally who I accepted as friends so as not to be rude; however, they can’t see the majority of my statuses and they are unable to post comments on any.)

It’s very immature for her to be taking to facebook to air any issues she has with you, and at some point, it may be worth having a conversation with her (and her husband if they are “in on it” together). You’re stuck with them for life, so might as well try to make it a positive- or at least civilized- relationship. 

Post # 10
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2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You have to invite her.  It would be EXTREMELY rude not to.  Not only is it rude to not invite spouses, but she’s familiy and not inviting her would be a huge public slight.  This would only lead to more drama and make you look like a b*tch.

I don’t know what was said on FB so I can’t tell you if it’s worth confronting them about it or not.  Sometimes it’s better to just ignore other people’s immaturaty.  However, I will say that your Fiance should be sticking up for you to his family.  So maybe it’s time for him to step in.

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