- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hi Bees, so in trying to confirm my first trimester screen appointment this afternoon, I was told my doctor forgot to fax any of the paperwork over to the lab, so they never made the appointment. Unfortunately this is just something new to add to the growing list of complaints (which include our first appointment lasting a grand total of 20 minutes, and in which they forgot to take blood, so I had to come back 2 weeks later). This is an ob-gyn in a large university hospital, you would think they would have their act together. My husband is understandably quite upset, and so am I. I’m worried that if they’re dropping the ball this early on, who knows what will happen during subsequent appointments and during the delivery. I have a couple of questions as I look for a new doctor:
1. I’m 13weeks today, is it now too late to do the first trimester screen? I’m uninterested in doing an amniocentesis at 16 weeks because of how invasive the test is, however, I do want to know if the baby is at risk for genetic abnormalities. The doctor basically scared the crap out of us with his statistics, even though we have no family histories of the tested disorders and I’m only 28.
2. If I’m interested in a water birth (which I might not be a candidate for due to spine fusion), do I speak to a doula or a midwife? Are they the same thing? Do we schedule one now or later in my 3rd trimester? What exactly do they do?
3. Does the doula/midwife work with the doctor? Will they come to a hospital if I end up needing a c-section?
4. Who in the world do I ask any second trimester questions? Like I mentioned, my current doctor hasn’t said anything or even scheduled a follow-up visit.
I’m so confused about all of this stuff, any advice would be appreciated.