Post # 1
Okay… I am having my engagement dinner February 17th. First off I want everyone to know my fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves including wedding.
So my sister wanted to have an engagement party and I thought it would be a good idea for all of our close friends to meet because my fiance and I don’t hang out in the same social circle. In case anyone is curious to why we are paying ourselves, my sister is only 21 and I didn’t want to burden her with the cost of the engagement dinner especially since she’s going to be paying for the bridal shower and bachelorette party already.
We originally planned on having the dinner at a friends apartment in Manhattan but the number of guests kept growing and it will just be too cramped. So I just asked my friend who I had invited to the engagement dinner if it was possible to hold it at his restaurant and explained to him what happened. He more then happily agreed. I of course offered and totally intend to pay for everything.
Now my problem is the cost… His restaurant is quite expensive since it’s right next to rockefeller and radio city. I asked to create a prefix meal which he agreed with but I don’t want to come off looking cheap and stingy picking the cheapest stuff off his menu. He asked if I wanted to add dessert but the dessert is like 12 dollars for a small piece of cake.. I just can’t really afford all that extra. How should I go about this without coming off cheap? I’m very grateful he’s allowing us to have it at his restaurant but I don’t want to spend a fortune.
Post # 3
woops I just realized it’s under dress lol
Post # 4
Ask if you can bring your own cake from an outside baker. You could probably get a decent cake for $3-4 a slice which will save you quite a bit. Hopefully as a friend he will allow you to do this as long as you order apps and mains from the restaurant.
Another idea is to do apps for the tables instead of having it on the menu. So a table of 6 would get 3 different pre-selected appetizers they can all share. Then each person can choose from 2 or 3 options on mains. Make sure one option is a pasta option as that will be cheaper and can hopefully bring your average bill down.
Post # 5
Maybe even ask for a ‘special’ banquet menu – lots of plates in the middle – this is generally c less expensive option & can work quite well with groups.
Withthe cake you can simple say that your mum REALLLYYY wants to buy the engagement cake.
Post # 6
Sit down and be honest with him and see if you can find some middle ground where its not the cheapest shit, but it’s not breaking your bank.
Post # 7
@crystalrae: Thanks. I think i might just skip out on the dessert.
@Nic01: That’s actually a good idea, idk if his restaurant does that but i’ll definitely ask.
I know he’s probably going to comp all the drinks as he always do. He usually comps my entire meal whenever I go with FI or friends. So he’s definitely going to hook it up but my concerns are coming off as cheap . My original budget was obviously a lot lower since we had planned to just have a get together at a friends apartment. Now I have to re-do the whole budget…
I was thinking of having a choice of two pasta dishes and a chicken dish for the main course..
Post # 8
@sruan: this may sound obvious, but how about chatting to him about it. Not being cheap. But honest. Ask him for suggestions – i’ve got $x amount to play with per person, i know your mains are little more expensive (but are AMAZING) , but how about a banquet? There would be less preparation in the ‘plating ‘ of the food & my guests ‘would love that style’ At the end fo the day, what you don’t want is a massive bill that you weren’t expecting. You are better off knowing EXACTLy what you are in for rather than ‘hoping’ he *may* pay for the drinks.
he can then guide you on what food woudl be best / is available / or i dare say it, within budget.
Let us know how you go!!
Post # 9
@Nic01: Thanks for your honesty. I know the obvious thing to do is just talk to him about it. I just told him a few minutes ago about my budget being a little tight and he seems to be very understanding. Let’s hope everything works out.