(Closed) Need some advice on what to do.. I feel lost

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You can’t just run away from your problems, that won’t fix anything. You honestly sound depressed, like you’re not handling the changes in your life well. I’d definitely look into talking to a professional first and foremost before you fall deeper into this rut. Sometimes just talking to someone you don’t know, who can offer an objective opinion really helps.

Post # 4
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Talking to a professional would help. In the meantime, try to find little things that make you smile, make you happy or at least less sad.  If you’re at all religious, you could reach out to a local church group, maybe a book club or a young adult ministry.  My sister used http://www.meetup.com to find a group of young working women when she moved to Atlanta, and met a lot of girls her age with similar interests.  And about dates with your husband…it can be hard after being married to go on traditional “dates” every weekend, so maybe try to take the pressure off and find new ways to have fun.  Maybe try putting an empty jar on the counter, with strips of paper next to it.  Have each of you write simple, basic date ideas (a new restaurant you want to try, a night staying in and watching a film, going to the movies, etc) and then when Friday or Saturday rolls around pulling out a date idea, so less thinking about it. Try to stay positive, even it can be very hard to feel so alone.

Post # 5
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sorry you’re so homesick =(

It sounds like you’re going to have to take action and make some changes to become happier. I’d start off with maybe trying to find a different salon to work at – it’s great when you get along with your coworkers and can make friends there, not when it’s something you’re depressed to even go to! And I totally agree about tring to make friends in the area – what about posting on your local board and seeing if any bees want to meet up? As far as date nights go, plan some!

Post # 7
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Take it from someone who has been in your shoes before, it gets better, but it is up to you to make it better. You just a great time planning and having a wedding and were probably really excited about moving in with your husband, that you didnt stop to think about the day to day changes in your life once you made the big move. I get that! I followed my then not even fiance to some middle of nowhere farm town where I cried every day for months. I was a mess. My mom finally gave me some great advice and told me that no one was going to make things better but me. So i signed up for meetup groups, invited a co-worker I barely liked but was my age out for drinks, basically just got out of my house.  It wasn’t easy and it didnt happen overnight, but my “empty lonely life” wasnt so bad after awhile

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