(Closed) Need some advice/opinion.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I can say that if my DH was doing this, I’d be pretty upset too. I’d ask him how he’d like it if I was the one doing this and sending 1000s of texts to another married man. I’d also tell him if it was so innocent then he needed to prove it to me by showing me their texts…if he didn’t, then I think you have your answer.


Post # 34
8700 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@figgnewton:  Congrats that you have a man good enough to stop it, and good luck on your journey!

Post # 35
3848 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Thank you for the update.  Wishing you and your H all the best going forward.  Are you in marital counseling?  Stay strong and sending  *hugs* to you.

Post # 36
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@figgnewton:  Good for you for sorting it out! I can only imagine how uncomfortable the whole situation must have been for you!

Post # 37
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Really glad this is working itself out and that he started to feel uncomfortable by himself. I don’t think it would have stopped if he felt it was ok  

Post # 40
1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@figgnewton:  I’m so glad you talked to him and that he decided by himself to stop. Good luck in the future and remember to listen to your gut.  You sensed something inappropriate was going on and you were right!

Post # 41
2562 posts
Sugar bee

@figgnewton:  If it was before 10pm, it would be harmless.


not 3am.

Glad you guys talked and are on the same page!

Post # 42
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@figgnewton:  I recently had a similar issue with my Fiance texting late at night.  We sat down and discussed it before agreeing upon rules regarding what is and is not considered appropriate within the bounds of our relationship.  I also contacted the woman and told her to back off which in hindsight was a bit juvenile but boy did it make me feel better.

Him deleting everything is the big red flag for me.  If it’s harmless chatter then he should be able to allow you to read it and not hide it from you.

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