(Closed) need some cheering up…

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well, have you thought of any social services/sheltering? While you might not be suffering physical abuse, you may be being abused mentally/emotionally. There may be programs out there for you…

Post # 18
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@zalonia: Ok. I think it may be time to have a serious heart to heart with your Fiance. He needs to be honest about what he wants and you need to do the same. I notice you said you don’t have any family. No one? I understand this is a difficult situation to be in. I have two children and one day my ex husband told me he was moving out. He literally moved out the next day. I had no car and no money. My kids were very young.  All I had was my job as an apt. manager. Thank God I had that job. If I were you, I would head straight to the welfare office and apply for whatever assistance you can. Start looking for programs that offer housing. Get your name on every housing list you can find, even if the waitlist is LONG. And lastly, if you honestly don’t have a soul you can depend on, I wouldn’t hesitate changing environments. Moving out of the city to a less expensive town might be a good idea. Maybe you can find an apt. manager job somewhere so at least you will have a roof over your head until you find a new job. I am so sorry you are going through this. Good luck to you and you can do it!

Post # 19
1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Poor Zal. Welfare sucks but it might help you in the interim. You can’t go on tied to someone you resent. You must keep trying and focus on getting free, not engaged. If he decided to propose then great but if not you may have to sleep in the best till you find a better situation. Either way I feel for you. I hope he’s just pulling your chain but you sound of so little faith that I’m not sure he’s the one for you.


Post # 20
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

So sorry to hear you are going through this zalonia. I agree with what edisonsgirl said, get yourself on whatever welfare you can at this stage and start saving every single cent you can. Obviously the situation you are in at the moment is just not working for you and your boyfriend is not making you happy.

Not getting you anything for your birthday is INEXCUSABLE. If he wasnt ready to buy you a ring, well how about just a birthday present! Even some flowers would have been nice.

Start speaking to whoever you can about changing your situation. Maybe another city is a good idea to look at? There might be more job opportunities elsewhere.

Good luck – I know it is so hard when you cant escape him for the financial reasons, but just start looking for a way to make that break.


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