(Closed) Need some cheering up

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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769 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Sorry you are feeling like this!

First, we are all always our own worst critics.  Maybe yours are actually a lot better than you think?

If not, maybe you can do a fun first year anniversary shoot or something?

Post some pics.  I’m sure they are beautiful! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
Bee
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I second Amani – if you really aren’t happy with them, do an anniversary shoot.

Also, is it the overall photos, or is it the editing/coloring on them? I bet someone (maybe you even?) could re-edit them for you if that’s the case. As an example, check out Mrs. Shortcake’s posts. I know she’s not done with her recaps yet, but she was SO devastated by her awful photographer, and ended up re-editing all of the photos herself. I think she did a GREAT job too! They were not good at all to begin with. If you don’t have photoshop, lots of other programs do a great job – Google Picasa is a free one for example.

 

Post # 5
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1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m sure your pictures are beautiful! I agree 100% with Amani, if you feel like you would really prefer to have a “re-do” maybe set up a bridal portrait shoot or an anniversary shoot and just ask the photographer if it’s allowed to wear your dress. I think all of us have to compromise somewhere (if we’re on a budget). I am having to compromise on some areas as well, and chances are I’ll be feeling the same way a year from now πŸ˜‰ Good luck!!!

Post # 6
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354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m so sorry you’re disappointed with your pictures πŸ™  I agree with pps – get a photographer you love to do some shots of you guys. I’m sure there are lots of things about your wedding that you love – try to focus on those good things. That’s easier said than done, but you’ll just make yourself feel worse if you keep thinking about ‘what if.’ Big hugs!

Post # 7
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619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I too am sorry you feel this way..remember that you can have pics taken at another time like they all suggested….the “what if’s” always drive us nuts and make things worse than they really are…I’m not discounting how you feel, but sometimes its not as bad as we think…Smile 

Post # 8
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I love the idea of an anniversary shoot.  I might have to steal that!!

Post # 9
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1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I remember seeing your pictures when you posted them after your wedding – they were beautiful!

I know what you mean about not liking your pictures, especially after you see someone else’s that you like better. I felt the same way about our pictures, but just lately, our photographer used one of our wedding pictures in a contest and won second prize! So they can’t be as bad as I think they are. We can really be overly critical of ourselves sometimes.

Post # 10
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1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

You could always make your anniversary shoot a “trash the dress” session…that would give you an excuse to wear your beautiful wedding gown again! Have your husband throw on a suit, and get yourself some new “wedding” portraits. =)

Post # 11
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624 posts
Busy bee

We weren’t really happy with our pics because of what was missing.  There’s not much we can do about it but we plan on doing an anniversary shoot every year with different photogs that we couldn’t afford for the wedding.

I like the Trash the dress suggestion as well!

I hope one of these days you can look back and remember it as positive…I’m in the same boat and it’s turning around, slowly.

Post # 12
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4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My heart breaks when I hear this! People post all the time about dress regret, but the one thing I HEAR so much of in my business, is wedding photographer regret. Whether from budget, lack of knowledge, or what have you. I REALLY recommend that you go do a fun shoot with a kick A$$ photographer. Put him in a nice suit, dig your dress out, and go rock the heck out of a portrait session. Even the bigger really good photographers will only set you back $300-500. 

I had a bride who did that, she framed my photos for her house, and 2 years later, people are still talking about the POST wedding shoot. She was in  your position, hired a friend who was decent but not “great.”

I’m so sorry, my heart truly does break for you and all who are in this situation.  But thank you for posting, because it’s a very real and heartbreaking regret for a LOT of brides!

Post # 13
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry to hear this! Do you know anyone who’s got mad photo editing skills who might be able to make the shots you have look amazing, even if the photog couldn’t? I also love the idea everyone else has of an anniversary shoot! how fun would that be?! πŸ™‚

I am in the same boat and I worry this will happen to me- a friend who shoots weddings as an occassional side business is shooting our wedding because we simply cannot afford anything else. *le sigh* He’s a great photographer, but I seriously worry that shots will be missing, or bad/terrible/horrendous or that I’ll look terrible in all of them…the worry goes on!

Post # 14
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We paid a LOT for an expensive photographer, and sometimes I see photos by Jasmine Star and Jose Villa and I get kind of sad and jealous. It’s natural! As much as I love our wedding photos, I also nitpick and say, “Oh, she didn’t get  that shot or this shot.”

We’re doing an anniversary shoot for our one-year anniversary. We really liked our photographer, so we’re using her again, but just really relaxing this time and thinking about the kind of photos we want. On our wedding day, we were so distracted because of everything  going on that we missed some of the photos we REALLY wanted (it was our fault, we never told our photog).

Don’t feel weird or self-indulgent if you decide to go with an anniversary shoot. A LOT of people are doing this now, and it’s more than okay to want some kick-ass pictures of yourselves πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow that sounds like a great idea, maybe save up for a post wedding shoot?  But remember no matter how much you spend and love your pics, you will always see pics that are better, it’s just like dress shopping I guess!

Post # 16
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1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m still think about a post wedding shot since I wasn’t happy with the photos we have of us as a couple. I don’t care for our formal shots, are candids are nice, some are quite good. Also weather was a big issue on our wedding day that caused photo reget. I ended up with lots of church pics which I totally didn;t want since it was raining outside.

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