Post # 17
It isn’t necessarily always like that, but it can be, depending on the circumstances. If you’re just at an office visit and the subject comes up, you probably wouldn’t have to sign the forms. At my midwife practice, once you go past your due date they start having you do non-stress tests and amniotic fluid index tests (pretty standard). At 41 weeks, I was right
below the cutoff on the AFI, and I knew that I was dehydrated from having been sick a few days before. I also had a very low Bishop score at that point (measure of dilation and effacement that correlates with the likelihood of successful/failed induction – a low Bishop score means you have a high chance of a failed induction leading to C-section.)
My doula helped me track down some research on amniotic fluid index – how it’s measured, how high its rate of false positives is, how it does correlate with maternal dehydration and how rehydration can improve it, and how all by itself it doesn’t mean there’s a problem with the placenta – when it co-occurs with other symptoms then it’s something to worry about, but that wasn’t the case for me. So, knowing that induction for isolated low AFI is not evidence-based, I declined and had a successful vaginal delivery five days later. Seriously, though, I’m sure that most women in that position would feel a lot of pressure to just go along with the standard recommendation to induce, and many would end up with C-sections for failure to progress because their bodies just weren’t ready yet.
Post # 18
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An EDD is not a magic number or an appointment when the baby is going to arrive. Use the doctor’s date for your appointments with them and remember that the baby will come with s/he is ready. It’s not really an issue unless you go over 42 weeks, then many doctors want to induce and at that point you may want to request to wait an additional week (or you may want that baby out ASAP.)
Post # 19
@Mars62312: I use the due date given by the doctor based on the dating u/s. It’s just an estimate so it really doesn’t matter – use whichever you’d like.
Post # 20
I go by the dating of my u/s, not the dating of my LMP (I have the same issue as you with longer cycles). Every time I have a doc appt, my doctor brings up the discrepancy, but she goes with the u/s date anyway. I figure that my baby is developing with the ACTUAL timeline (i.e. u/s), not with the theoretical timeline based on my LMP.
Post # 21
Your due date really doesn’t matter. The chances of delivering on that day or even in that week are slim. Id go by the one the dr gave you and roll with it.
Post # 22
I had this same problem, and originally I was saying both, but then I got tired and confused by all the numbers and just starting using the doctor’s and now I can’t even remember what my original calculation was. Since almost all births occur before the baby is anywhere near 10 days overdue, it’s really unlikely that a couple of days will be a pressing problem. Also, they start to measure all wonky anyway usually, even by 20 weeks. And you may end up with additional ultrasounds for some reason or another in any event – I think all the moms I know did, and I did. And they measure belly size in the later weeks to determine if you’re measuring ahead or behind, which is also often wonky.
As far as inductions go, that decision should be made on placental age/fluid levels in any event, and an aged placenta can happen at 38 weeks too! So anyway, if you can keep track of both, then power to you! I sure couldn’t, ha ha ha.
Post # 23
@Mars62312: I’d ask what the hell the point of the 8 week ‘dating’ Ultrasound is if she’s going to ignore that. That was paid for by someone (insurance) for a precious medical reason (finding an accurate due date). Later on when they want to induce based on a false date it would be an issue.
Post # 24
@Mars62312: Aside from the date disagreement between you and your doc, a close friend of mine strongly recommended to me to tell people that your due date is WAY later than it actually is. She told people it was a full two weeks after what her doctor had said, because she didn’t want to be bothered. When the baby came near his actual due date, everyone was surprised and she didn’t have to handle the irritating, “Have you had the baby yet?” questions. When asked how far along she was, she wouldn’t report on the weeks, just the months.
Post # 25
That BS is exactly why I’ve decided that when I get a BFP, I’m just going to subtract 14 days from my O date and tell them that’s when my cycle started. I tend to O anywhere in between CD 16-CD20 so “Eff that.” Hopefully it’s a moot point and we’ll get to use a midwife anyway, but I hate that attitude. Sounds like your doula was pretty awesome though.