(Closed) Venting

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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240 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think getting engaged after 1 year is rushing things, per se. Why do you feel that you’re rushing things is what I’m wondering! 🙂

Post # 4
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2949 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Only you can tell us if you are rushing things in your relationship. For some, getting engaged after a year of dating is unheard of, for others, it works. It depends on the people, their relationship, their age and where they are in their respective lives.

Like the PP said, you shoud ask yourself why you think you need to ask if you’re rushing things.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think that when you know, you KNOW!  So it’s not really rushing per se.  I think age does come into account… if you are 16 then that would totally be rushing!  In terms of your options, you have to be true to yourself.  Do you want to be engaged so badly that having a ring or not doesn’t matter? Have you always dreamed of a diamond engagement ring or do you prefer gemstones (you can get a beautiful gemstone engagement ring for a fraction of the cost of a diamond ring!). It’s really about your priorities and what you are willing to do and still be happy! Good luck!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If you’re questioning whether you’re rushing things, chances are, there is something you are unsure of. There’s nothing wrong with working on your relationship and waiting until you are 100% sure. Good luck!

Post # 9
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@rrobins7:  If you are fearing your rushing things than you are probebly rushing things. People who know don’t second guess themselves. 

It takes time sometimes to really know beyond a shadow of a doubt if he’s really the one, but just chill and enjoy the relationship as it is. If you’ve already discussed it he’s aware and since he’s on board he feels strongly in your relationship and loves you very much. 

So let the waiting begin, welcome to the bee! 🙂 

 

Post # 10
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240 posts
Helper bee

@rrobins7: I wonder if you’re deep down really not ready to get married and are just using the engagement ring as an excuse. Now, I don’t know you obviously, so this is pure speculation based on the limited info you’ve provided. I say this because if you’re ready to get married, you’re ready to get married. Having a ring or not having a ring won’t change that fact. Since you seem to feel some kind of weird pressure/stress about this ring issue, I have to wonder if you’re projecting your deeper fears onto something materialistic and easier to talk/think about.

Post # 11
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533 posts
Busy bee

My fella proposed without a ring. You don’t need one to be engaged. Mine was being made and I had it within a month or so.

As others have said if you are worries you are rushing, then just wait. Hopefully you won’t feel rushed by the time he is ready to propose.

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