(Closed) Need Some Encouragement !

posted 4 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
3378 posts
Sugar bee

@ladiv3568:  Why do you think fat is so horrible? He fell in love with the fat you. Weight is weight. Give yourself a break, you dropped 28 lbs! That’s awesome! Everyone and I mean EVERYONE (including all sticks and twigs) finds something they don’t like about themselves. Forget about it and enjoy your day. Weddings are about love and happiness, not arm jiggle. 🙂

Post # 4
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Don’t give up!  Perhaps you need to change your exercising routine.

Have you considered getting a personal trainer?  If that’s out of the question perhaps you need to increase the intensity of your work out.  I  follow some work out routines with youtube and dvds and all the trainers said if it’s getting too easy you need to increase the resistant/intensity by adjusting your form or using weights to burn more fat.  I personally like following the youtube channels blogilates and befit because I always feel I’m getting an awesome workout from them.

Also depending on your dress style you can try toning certain areas of your body instead of trying to lose weight everywhere.  For instance if you’re worry about your arm you can do more bicep and tricep (especially the tricep since it’s hard to lose) areas by using weights.

Post # 5
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m fat. He met me fat. He’s no skinny chicken himself. But he is my better half. Which means if he’s shocked on my wedding day I look exactly the same *but* with much better makeup, jewelry, hair, and a poofy dress (with no spanx) he’d best run. =}

I’ve been heavier, I’ve been thinner but I haven’t been happier. Find that glow. 

That said — make sure you’re getting your points in.. even the extra points. You freaked your body out and it’s unsure what the hell to do with this healthy stuff. Shake up your routine movement wise – eat your points and get your protein in.. BUT DONT stress any more. You lost near 30 lbs. That means you only have 70 to go if your goal for yourself and *not just your wedding*. Set a rational goal for your remainder of your time (even if it’s to eat your points, move some, and not gain ~ seriously) and STOP stressing because fact of the matter is if you weren’t you – you wouldn’t be marrying this man. 

If you want to talk about a protein centric diet I can tell you some tricks but honestly I think you’re doing it right and in a sane way that will stick instead of rapid loss followed by the yo yo of rapid gain.  

More than anything? Be happy in this moment. I am very proud of you for losing 28 lbs – it shows. I promise. Lemme know if you need a pep talk! 

Post # 6
982 posts
Busy bee

28 pounds is fantastic! Congratulations! I second what PPs have said – he loves YOU. you don’t need to worry about whether or not he will find you attractive because he already does! And I am sure he is so proud of you.

If you want to keep losing, maybe add some weights into your sessions and mix it up with HIIT or something. But you have no reason to feel anything but amazing and accomplished. 

Post # 11
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ladiv3568:  He fell in love with you the way you are. My best friend is very heavy, and she looked so damn fabulous in her wedding dress and hair and makeup. And she decided not to “hide” herself with a wrap or sleeves (even though it was New Year’s Eve and she could have and just said she was cold).Don’t beat yourself up when you did what you could (28 lbs is amazing!). Remember that heavy or skinny, tall or short, we all look in the mirror and notice and HATE things about ourselves that no one else even knows is a problem. Your weight is not who you are, it is only a small part of what makes everyone who they are as a whole. You are not a fat bride, you are a fabulous bride!

Post # 12
8888 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I agree with the PP’s.  You lost 28 pounds, that’s fantastic! I bet you are gorgeous.


Post # 13
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oh I wish this 8 weeks would fly by in a flash. I hope to distract myself as much as possible and concentrate on everything EXCEPT the wedding. I was telling him on the way home from his mom’s today – he refuses to sleep here the night before I’ll be a hot, emotional mess & with no sleep? Sharp tongue! I can only hope someone hands me a drink every time I get goin! 

Post # 14
7728 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sure it shows and you look great!  Sometimes it’s hard to see the changes in ourselves.  I always have that problem.  Chin up!  

Post # 15
903 posts
Busy bee

@ladiv3568:  I’m sure if you posted a pic of yourself, if you were comfortable with doing that,  youd hear nothing but compliments. No one criticizes others the way we criticize ourselves. You have a man who loves you for you. PLAIN AND SIMPLE ma’am. I’m sure you’re a wonderful woman and great to be around which is why you get to marry the man of your dreams … YOU DESERVE IT! Take a deep breath and go get some sexy under garments and find a dress you feel beautiful in! I’m a size 18/20 and one of my things is matching bras and painties! I have 3 corsettes i wear for fun nights ;)!! lol. Trust me … beneath all that doubt is confidence … you just have to break free! 


If you want/need to talk you can PM! 🙂

Post # 16
2278 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jadlnc:  So well said 🙂

@OP — You lost 28 pounds – which is a wonderful accomplishment ♥

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