(Closed) Need some encouragement from other anxious bees

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@nzbride3:  Aww, sweetie! Hugs to you!  It’s been some time since I was planning for our Sept 2011 wedding, but I just wanted to tell you as a married bride that all of that anxiety does really pass, I promise!  I remember so many a days where I cried and cried over this or that, or had panic attaks over something not looking quite right.  We were also buying a house while were planning our wedding, and while it was an exciting time, it was just a lot to handle emotionally!  Too many changes all at once!  I promise it will all be okay though!!

Post # 4
11697 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

you will be fine 🙂

I’ve been through some pretty low points in my life and spent a lot of time masking my pain. I’m a paranoid person by nature which also doesn’t help.  It takes time and effort but you can get through. Surround yourself with people who love and support you unconditionally (and will give you a swift kick in the pants when you’re being ‘dumb’)



Post # 5
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@nzbride3:  I’m not going to say one day you wake up and it is all better. It isn’t. It’s a long climb back up and you’ll stumble and fall. But eventually you WILL wake up and it is a little less hard. And then even less…until gradually life is worth living and you have pulled yourself out. 



I love Allie from Hyperbole and a Half. I’m not sure how much of this is depression and how much is anxiety, but she really managed to hit the nail on the head with this latest post about depression. 


It will get better. You just need to give it time. <hugs> Hang in there.

Post # 6
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m so sorry. I had the worst anxiety of my life last year and I know just how difficult it can be. 

Now It’s been over a year and my anxiety is not gone completely and I wont lie, there have been days where I have wondered if I will ever feel like I did before all of it got so bad. Unfortunately I am far away from being the normal me but…

I had a 24/7 panic attack for months, no lie even when I was sleeping I would wake up shaking hysterrically. I was a complete and utter mess. I was in such horrible shape from the anxiety that my therapist recommended a couple times that I be hospitalized to calm the anxiety. Being a “single mom” that just wasn’t possible.

But now, being completely unmedicated for over a year and even during that hard time, things have gotten so much better. I find myself closer and closer to the way I was before all of this. I haven’t gotten there yet but I can see it coming. I can feel it I just haven’t made it.

I’ve come so incredibly far since all of that, my husband reminds me of this all the time and says he sees an extremely different side of me compared to this past year and he sees all of the progress I’ve made.

I was diagnosed this past year with generalized anxiety disorder, at one point I was afraid to sleep, afraid to be awake, afraid to be alone but afraid to be around people. I would call anyone and everyone I knew just to come sit with me during the day. If I couldn’t get ahold of anyone I would have a melt down. But now I’m OK with being alone, I love to sleep and love waking up, it’s so much better. I still have generalized anxiety, things still make me nervous but that’s where stepping out of our comfort zone comes into play. The things we know are safe but don’t feel safe doing, doing these things has been important in my recovery. 

I know I’m not perfect and I’m far from being where I want to be, but coming from someone who has had such a horrific deal with anxiety over the last 12 months (started 2 years ago though just increased 10fold last year) I can honestly say it will get better. It may take time but it will get better. If I could overcome the horrible anxiety I had last year without even medication for the bad days, you can overcome yours. It is possible, just keep your eye on where you want to be and do everything you can to get there. My therapist was very very impressed by how much I really listened and put to use what he said, but as I’m sure you understand, I was desperate to feel normal again. I was willing to try anything even if it seemed useless. And it helped.

If you haven’t yet, one thing I recommend trying is positive affirmations. It helped my anxiety so much. It was incredible. The most incredible help I got though was getting closer to my faith but I wont preach on here. Although it helped more than I could ever imagine.

Post # 7
14 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Like the previous poster, I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder about 6 years ago. I have been on an antidepressant for the duration of that time. Situations that always trigger anxiety for me are the anticipation of events where I feel I might be judged, even if it is by the people that love me most. I get nervous before family get togethers, before I see friends I haven’t seen in a while, before holidays and work events etc. I take it to a whole new level of fear. Once I am in the middle of the said event, I am typically fine.. It is all of the worry leading up until that event that just makes me panic. That being said, I got engaged in Feb and now I am anticipating the ultimate get together where all eyes will be on me, THE WEDDING DAY! I wish I could say that I am looking forward to it, but I am mostly looking forward to it being over. I am SOOOO excited to be married and be a wife to a husband that I love so much, but I am absolutely beside myself in fear of the actual wedding ceremony and reception. All I know is I hope that I can make it through the wedding day without vomiting or having a panic attack. It’s horrible. Ugh =(


Post # 8
982 posts
Busy bee

@nzbride3:  I feel exactly the same as you, and I’m seeing a psychologist for the first time tomorrow. I am glad you’re doing better! I guess you have to take small steps, and in time, you’ll look back and realise you’ve walked 1000 miles! Those small steps add up to a very long way over time. Getting help is the best thing you could have done for yourself.

The way I see it, I didn’t always have anxiety. Therefore. I can get back to how I was before this all started. Even people who have suffered from anxiety for most of their lives can benefit from help. There is always hope!

Post # 9
982 posts
Busy bee

@MrsFutureG:  The link to that post was the best thing I’ve ever read about depression! It makes so much sense. 

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