Post # 1
Hello lovely hive ladies!
I’m a longtime board lurker coming out with my first post. My fiance is a diplomat for the state department, and currently on his first overseas assignment, which is unfortunately what they call a “danger post,” meaning I couldn’t join him (happily, I’ll join him on all his future assignments). So he’s 6,000 miles away from me in Saudi Arabia, for a whole year.
We’re about nine months in right now, but while it seems like we’re in the home stretch, it still feels like an excruciatingly long time to wait. As if carrying the wedding planning on my shoulders isn’t hard enough, our anniversary is this Saturday, and I’m having a hard time with its fiance-less approach.
Just need some words of encouragement from some ladies who “get it.” I super pinky swear I’ll return the favor!
Post # 3
9 months is TOTALLY the home stretch =].
DH was deployed to Iraq for 15 months and it took awhile to get used to. Anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas kinda sucked, but planning the wedding made it much easier. And when i felt particularly crappy, i sent him a care package, made him a cute video, or wrote him a nice email.
Been there, done that, got my t-shrit, and lived to survive =]. I promise you will, too, and it’ll make you stronger! And, how cool you get to travel with him. Maybe he’ll go somewehre awesome like the meditteranean. A diplomat sounds like a nifty job =]
Only 3 more months, though!
Post # 4
HANG IN THERE!!! you’re ALMOST THERE!!! and while it probably is excruciating and seems like forever! (i totally understand, i feel the same way about our wedding in september!!)
you CAN DO IT! long distance is tough, but the reunion is that much sweeter!! keep yourself busy so the TIME FLIES BY! 🙂
Post # 5
It’s always the last few days/weeks/months that are the toughest isn’t it? Why is that? I know how your’re feeling! Hang in there and be strong! You’ve waited this long, you totally have it in you to wait 3 more months! I’m sure that it’ll be tougher on you when your Anniversary comes along and he’s not there..but YOU can do this! 3 more months and you’ll finally get to rip each other’s clothes off. lol. I hope this made you laugh in your time of distress.
Post # 6
Although my fiance isn’t a service man (he plays hockey which has kept us apart for the past 2.5 years) I can certainly relate. You are absolutely AMAZING for going 9 months apart, the longest we did was 3 at a time and it felt like for-ev-er. There are VERY few couples who can get through what you are doing and you will be so much better off after this time.
As for you anniversary I’d make big plans for the day! Do you have friends/family around you can call up and have a girls night or an early Father’s day? Maybe have someone help you on a wedding task like escort cards or table numbers? That way you’ll look forward to the day instead of dread it! FI and I have never been together for each other’s bdays, v-day, anniversary, or a holiday (oh except 4th of July once?) so I certainly can relate!
Stay strong you are a very lucky woman to have the man of your dreams!!
Post # 7
Make Saturday a you day filled with things you like (ex. mani/pedi, massage, movie, cupcakes etc.). Maybe this will help distract you from being apart from your FI? You are so close to the end date, and if you are the one planning everything for your wedding, I’m sure you will be so busy coming up that it will make time fly even faster! Keep busy, it’ll help 😉
Post # 8
WOW. Thank you ladies! The internet at work was out allllllll day starting about five minutes after I posted this, so imagine my delight to come home to an OUTPOURING of support! You gals are just fantastic. I think you’re right, distraction is probably the name of the game. It HAS been a long time since I’ve had a pedicure or saw a movie…
Also @gtxmsred, holy crap that made me LOL so hard. Thanks, girl, I needed that!
@something.blue, I’m so impressed that you’ve hung in there without getting to celebrate ANY big occasions with your sweetie! Guess I should count myself lucky to have celebrated previous things…
Post # 9
WOW only 3 months!!! You can do it! Here’s a suggestion from a long-time military woman: Set a goal for yourself each week. It can be individual or part of a larger goal. When you reach the goal, reward yourself (manicure, movie, new shoes :-). By the time you figure all that out and start it in motion, the time will fly! Start making plans for what you’ll wo when fiance’ comes home! Remember a year is a long time, and it will take a little bit of time for you BOTH to re-adjust. Is there a little romantic weekend you two can go on when he gets back?
You are SO CLOSE! Hang in there! I’m rooting for you!
Post # 10
the ladies are right. the end is the hardest. my FI is overseas as well, i also am about 7 mos in with about 3.5 left. the mail thing to remeber is to not stop doing you hobbies and workouts or whatever you do that makes you happy. alot of people say the beginning is the hardest, but i def think its the end. go to a clock countdown website and download a counter for his return… it def helped me being able to see that clock get lower and lower…. hang on, your almost there!!! keep you head up and keep on keeping on!!
Post # 11
There is a saying I like to use when I get down about FI being away all the time.
Distance in a relationship is like wind to fire; it will put out the weaker relationships but ignite the stronger ones.
Post # 12
@lisalew5472: This is such a fab idea. I find distractions and to-do lists make the time go faster. I’ve taken your advice and set a few goals for this week. Thanks for the suggestion!
@teamajax13: I, too, thought the beginning would be worse! And while the VERY beginning definitely was (getting used to him being gone, like the first couple of weeks), I’d say the end is definitely the worst. It’s like, ENOUGH ALREADY, COME HOME! 😉
@bottlehalffull: Oh my goodness, I love it! Thanks for the inspirational pick-me-up!
You ladies ROCK! Not that I had any doubts…