(Closed) Need some help and support

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ashley99:  ((Hugs)) Take a deep breath. You need to get some professional counseling to help you with all of this. It’s a lot to deal with all on your own, and going alone on it just puts you through unnecessary pain and suffering. I understand that taking medication is scary as hell, but I promise you that if you and your therapist decide that it is what you need to do, it will be okay. Better than okay even. It isn’t meant as a cure, nor should it turn you into a totally different person from who you are. Medication adjusts your brain chemistry enough that you can begin to work on life without constantly suffering. It’s okay to be afraid, but you can’t let that fear control you. Acknowledge it then move forward and take care of YOU.


I suffer from major depression, and I’ve gone through a really rough ride since being diagnosed over 10 years ago. Therapy helped me not only get through life but also gave me great tools to be able to live with depression. There have been times that I needed the help of medication. I’m currently on effexor. It literally saved my life when I started back on it over a year ago. It didn’t make the root causes of my issues go away, but I was able to sleep, actually get out of bed, eat, and not spend days and days just huddled in a heap fighting against the urge to kill myself. 


You can do this! It’s in you; I promise. If you need an ear, please don’t hesitate to message me. ((Hugs)) again. It will be okay, honey. Trust in that.

Post # 4
9126 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@ashley99:  oh I’m so sorry! This is what my Fiance is going through right now too 🙁 Please PLEASE consider going on some medication. If your cholestrol or thyroid chemistry was off, you’d take medicine, right? So why not take something that will help straighten out your ill brain chemistry? It can literally be a lifesaver. xoxox

Post # 6
917 posts
Busy bee

@ashley99:  Huge hugs to you! I also suffer from depression and anxiety and have felt exactly what you’ve described. I was also really reluctant to take to any medication, but when I felt the whole “wanting to kill myself” urge being my frequent, I knew I HAD to do something, and so should you. 


As @HisMoon:  has stated it’s a chemical imbalance, so it might take you and your doctor some time to find the right medication and dosage for you. While I’ve stayed on the same medication, I had to up my dosage after a few weeks because I wasn’t feeling any better. IF this happens to you, please go back to your doctors and talk to them about it. Ask them for a reference to a psychologist if you think that will help, but look after YOU, please! There’s only one of you and the world (especially us here on the BEE) isn’t ready to lose you. 

Post # 7
11373 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I have major clinical depression, severe, generalized anxiety disorder, severe and panic disorder so I’ve been in that pit.  I can tell you that therapy would have done nothing for me without meds to balance my chemistry so I could function well enough to participate in therapy and in life.


In my case, the anxiety is so severe, it causes the depression.  We had to experiment, as most people do, but we have me out of the pit and functioning much better now in my career, my marriage, my life.  I even look way better.


I hope you will reconsider on the meds.  If you were diabetic, would you refuse insulin?  I am sorry you are suffering so, especially when it’s possible for you to find some relief.


Post # 8
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i have friends who struggle with anxiety and depression, some medicated, some not. 

you have to separate ‘mental’ from ‘health’. your brain is part of your body – if you had a stomach issue you would take medicine – this is not different. don’t let the stigma of mental health problems keep you from getting healthy and  living well!

remember that the doctors are there to help you – can you take a friend to the appt? 

also – if you get nervous in the appt, write down a list of questions to ask the doctor beforehand. 

remember that it takes a while (ask your doctor how long) for medication to begin working – don’t get discouraged because you aren’t feeling better right away, stick with your dosage! if it needs to be amended you can talk to your doctor about that. 

in addition, exercise does really good things for anxiety and depression – even just taking a 30 minute walk after dinner can be really helpful. if you are not able to get outside, try downloading a yoga video to do before bed or some zumba to get you moving and your mind off your health issues. 

don’t feel alone! there is nothing ‘wrong’ with you and mental health issues are very common! speaking to the doctor should help 🙂

Post # 9
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

in addition – you should ask your doctor for a referral to a therapist or counselor. not sure about your insurance etc but even if you are uninsured there are low cost clinics available – it sounds like you could use some professional support. don’t be afraid to ask for help!

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