- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Follow what you two feel is best for you. Following the bible is not always clear cut – someone could read it as one thing and someone could read it as another. I sort of think its God’s way of telling us what WE need to hear.
For example this weekend my pastor brought up sex outside of marriage. I was sitting there feeling like a giant pile of S*** like i’m just a horrible person for being okay to live in sin like this. I’m thinking WTF am i supposed to do – our wedding date is set – we are getting married next year. Am i just supposed to run out and elope just so i stop sinning! I thought Jesus forgave me – whats going on here! If this is really what God wants of me then i’m not so sure I want to follow him. This is just a damn list of rules. (Keep in mind I love my church – i’ve NEVER seen it to be judgemental and its not like they were judging it was just that it made me feel that way) My fiance is a new christian so it doesn’t bother him so much. We regret the decision we made with our Exes but thats done. I guess i always saw it as a one time sin. You slept together before marriage – thats forgiven and its in the past. But I’m engaged now and I am as the bible puts it “pledged to be married” to him. So after reading through some other post I was somehow lead to read through 1st Corinthians 6-8. I didnt really understand until i read it in the “The Message” translation. Which is simply a more modern translation of the bible so its easier to understand. And this is what stuck out to me…
1 corinthians 6: 16-20 “As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.””
Ok well commitment can come before marriage too – we are totally committed to each other – whether or not its legally bound right now.
“Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life.“
So what I felt was God telling me that he cares more about the way we live our lives and move toward Him. And seeking a relationship with him. He defines who we are – not whether or not we have the marital status right now.
So i would say its best for you to do whatever both you and your fiance feel is right for you two and your relationship. Anymore is causing undue hardship and is NOT what God wants of you. IF both of you felt you were called to separate before marriage then thats fine for you. However since the only reason you are doing it is because some HUMAN is telling you is wrong. – I think its best to continue to live together and stop worrying whether or not you’re “living in sin” as so many have said. Theres bigger and more important things in life to think about. No matter what we do as christians we’re forgiven.