(Closed) Need Some Help Girls… Having a Hard Day

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You poor thing! You’re stuck at home feeling poorly, and it sounds like you’ve got quite the pity party going on–deservedly!

Maybe go for a walk, even if it’s just around the block, to clear your head? Turn on something <span style=”text-decoration: underline;”>other than wedding-related stuff. America’s Funniest Home Videos always makes me giggle, even if I am 26 and the show’s been on all of my life!

Try to shake the sadness with a bath, shower, walk, etc. I bet you’ll feel mentally better with some action or movement, and physically better soon!!!

 

Post # 4
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990 posts
Busy bee

*hugs hugs* I totally feel your pain – Loverboy and I haven’t been together that long but I’m just dying to get it over with and be married … and we’ve been talking about it since around the 2 month mark, too. Sometimes it just feels right. AND I, too, have been sick this weekend – and he has been the most amazing boyfriend a girl can ask for but it still sucks sometimes … like you just wanna call him your fiance, right?

I know it’s hard … and the waiting sucks … because I’m there, too. But it does get better. The medication probably is messing with your emotions. And PMS could be likely, too (sickness can bring on your period or make it stay away longer). So you could just be having an emotional time right now. No worries. That’s what we’re here for!

Post # 5
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7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ok.  Just take a big breath and here’s a hug.

It’s ok to not be engaged.  What I do is this.  I think about the period we are in as a couple right now.

focus on NOW. Not on tomorrow or what could happen tomorrow.  You and your guy are in love and are working on moving forward together towards marriage when the time is right.

This is an amazing time TXlawgirl.  Amazing.  There’s all this amazing love and anticipation but WITHOUT any stressors such as wedding planning.  So remember that part too!  There is a whole other aspect of stress that wedding planning brings to a realtionship and I know of another bride right now (work friend) who longs for these days where there was just love and fun and only wondering when they’d get engaged. 

I know we’re getting married next summer.  I’m cool with that.  I do want to be formally engaged, but know the guy will do it when the time is right.  You can’t rush this at all.  We’ve been together almost 2 years now so I understand the longing of wanting to have that committment that he wants your love to be the love that lasts a lifetime.  Just do your best to focus on other things.  I became so darn good at it (focusing on other things) that I have to work in time now to plan stuff.  My family is more nervously waiting than I am to tell the truth.

Just know that we’re here.  Now as for you.  If these shows make you want to cry then turn them off.   Cold turkey.  Go for a run, go to hang out with friends.  Enjoy the upcoming autumn.  Get absorbed in other things.

A wedding is just one part of your life.  It’s one day.  There’s the whole other rest of the part that is awaiting you.  And that other part is still here with you right now!  He loves you and will ask in his own time, as long as he is aware that is what you desire and you two have discussed this honestly and frankly.

Now get out there and do something fun!!!  Have a great day ๐Ÿ™‚  And turn off the “say yes to the dress”!

Post # 6
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730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Aww, texaslawgirl I’m sorry you’re having a rough day! I’ve been sick the past couple of days too…its absolutely no fun! Just a thought…maybe if you stop watching Say Yes to the Dress, and stop looking at rings online, you might stop thinking about the long-awaited proposal and just be able to go on with your life a little more.

I once stayed away from Weddingbee for a month or so, and just by keeping myself away from all the wedding-ness I felt a lot better. Of course, eventually it drove me crazy, and here I am. Smile

Anyway, ((lots of hugs)), and I hope your day gets better quick!!

Post # 7
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow! what an amazing boyfriend you have. He has taken care of you when you have been so sick and he has made his intentions clear  – remember that. Everything always looks worse when you are sick. Tomorrow will be better. He is investing in you right now and building a wonderful foundation for your future. Sit tight and let him know that his actions make you fall more in love everyday and you can’t wait to be his wife. Your time will come. I’m sure of itSmile

Post # 9
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You didn’t tell us the no shower in 3 days partSmile Take a shower put on clean pajamas and you will feel 100% better. Take Care!!!!

Post # 11
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730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Aww, I think I need some of those monkey pajamas. I’ve been sitting on the couch in flannel pants and tshirts for two days. Being sick is no fun, but maybe if my top and bottom matched I’d feel a little less sorry for myself… ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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171 posts
Blushing bee

Awww ((hugs)) I know exactly how you feel, I am finally feeling better after being sick all week and being trapped in the house. It is NO fun!

I also know how you feel about the waiting part although my Boyfriend or Best Friend agreed to go ring shopping tomorrow he has been acting very distant today and I’m worried it might be because of the ring thing. 

It so hard because you dont want to force them into something, while at the same time its just like……PROPOSE ALREADYYYYYY!

Post # 15
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828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

somehow you need to track down some cute monkey panties!

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