(Closed) need some help how to tell your moh you no longer want her in your wedding ???

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

 she informed me that she thought it was me who had changed and not her

edit: sorry, caught this so changed my response.

well have you?  brides sometimes get caught up in their own priorities that good friends do feel used, ignored or made to do too much. 

 

Original post: for her to suddenly changed what happened?  is something going on in her life that as a friend you might want to ask about first or did she suggest/do something that you reacted to/didnt thank her/was negative for her to say to heck with it

people just dont wake up and change overnight, there are always some factors that caused it – as she is a friend maybe you can talk to her about it

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sounds like it’s more than not wanting her IN your wedding more not wanting her IN your life/AT your wedding. Is the friendship ending? I’m guessing maybe since you two have exchanged words about people changing. If the friendship is ending (which yes, sometimes is natural) then it’ll be obvious she’s no longer in the wedding. People aren’t MOH’s in weddings when they are no longer friends. However, if you plan on remaining friends then there’s really no way to “kick her out.”

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@septbride2012: She’s asking for time off 10 months before your wedding? That is strange. I think at this point you need to really just consider if you want to continue the friendship. Don’t worry about the “MOH” stuff right now, just think about the friendship. Is it going to continue on your part? Will a few conversations help smooth over the issues you’re having?

I don’t think you can have her not be your Maid/Matron of Honor and continue being friends, even if she were to pretend to be okay with it. Just my opinion, but it’s a pretty friendship-ending thing, though not always the cause.

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