- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Hi ladies!! I am hoping to get some advise here.
Here is some background first…. My fiance and I have been engaged since May 2010. Our wedding date is 9/10/11, that will actually be our 6 year anniversary. We were planning on a big wedding in Orlando, FL. Unfortunately, my father recently passed away and I simply can not bear the thought of having a big traditional wedding without him there. I am an only child in a Jewish family, my parents (married 41 years) have been looking forward to this day since I was born and without my dad, it would just be awful…for me and especially my mother.
So, we decided we would cancel our big wedding in Orlando but we want to keep the date, it means a lot to us…so we are now planning to elope – Well, it started out as eloping but it seems that 15-20 people still want to join us. That is fine with us as we are happy to have our nearest and dearest there for what will hopefully be a small, modest intimate ceremony.
My fiance lived in Boston for a while and LOVES the Boston area. I have never been there but since the previous wedding we were planning was everything I wanted and he never complained once, I figured I would let him decide where it is we elope. He chose Boston ( downtown, backbay / Copley square area) I am kinda in no mans land here. Do we stay at a really nice hotel and have a small ceremony in the Common? Do we choose another random spot?? What about after? Go to dinner? plan a dinner? Am I responsible for paying for said dinner? I am not sure about the rules here. My girls want to know about a shower. I would still love a shower, is that rude? We are thinking about a honeymoon in Cape Cod or Martha’s Vineyard. Anyone have any suggestions for a New England HM???
We are all over the place. I am wondering if anyone else out there has had a similar situation? Any and all recommendations, thoughts and comments are welcome!! Thanks All