Post # 1
So, I have been kind of a lame new wife lately. This is mostly to do with the fact that my job stresses me out to an insane degree. I’m sort of stuck for the moment (as Darling Husband is going back to school for a second Bachelor’s degree) as the breadwinner for the household, so I’m feeling kind of depressed lately. At the same token, I love Darling Husband SOOOO much, and I don’t want to fall deeper into a job-related depression and ultimately neglect our new marriage. So, I want to do something really special for Darling Husband just to show that I’m thinking about him, and I’m not all-consumed by work. So, I’m taking to the bee hoping for some ideas. Help!
Post # 3
Cook him his favorite meal!
Post # 4
Write him a love note and stick it in his wallet or car or somewhere he’ll find it when you’re not around.
Post # 6
When I feel like a crappy wife, I usually bake one of his favorite treats. Or, a bj works too.
Post # 7
I like writing the love note idea. Darling Husband and I do that a lot for each other. Maybe you can get him a small gift of something he loves? Like a gift card for somewhere.
Post # 8
Love notes are always great! Life gets busy but that doesn’t mean the small things can’t make a huge impact. My husband works on valentines day and he always takes a backpack. I plan on hiding love notes inside his backpack for him to find.
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Post # 10
@MissHobbit: Second this. I remember to do it a few times a year and I always get a thank you text/email telling me how much he loves it.
I like small gestures because they mean so much.
something as simple as stopping off at a bakery and buying him a cupcake just for him for a special dessert on a random Tuesday.
Place a little chocolate on his pillow for him to find before going to bed.
Offer a back rub.
Take a shower at night and invite him in.
Post # 11
My husband is the happiest when he comes home to a clean house and food in the kitchen. Especially baked goods!! I think it freaks him out when I am just sitting around watching TV. Seeing me bored makes him feel depressed with me, I think. If that makes sense.
The best advice I can give you is to keep yourself busy and start new hobbies. What will make him happy is seeing you happy. Sometimes as a newlywed, that can be difficult. Your such in a different place and with job stress, it can be hard.
Exercise, eat well and take care of yourself and keep up with your home and cooking. this will benefit both of you. Find ways at home to make yourself happy and healthy and work will follow.
Post # 12
@sbottiani: Also wanted to add that I understand how everone is saying that you should do nice things for the husband. But I really believe what will ultimately make him happy besides the basics of clean home and food available is seeing you take care of yourself. Sometimes in order to give to others, we have to take care of ourselves first. Then you will have more to give.
Post # 13
I wear lingerie and do a backrub/sexy time type of combo when I feel like I am a boring wife.