Post # 1
Hey bees! I’m getting married on 8.31 and am having a minor freak-out about our invitations, mostly because one of my bridesmaids keeps commenting on how early I am planning on sending them out.
We set our RSVP date as July 1st because damnit, we want to know (and so much of our wedding is being handmade and personalized… how do people handle getting RSVPs two weeks before when things need to be calligraphied?!), and I’m planning on putting the invitations in the mail right before Memorial Day weekend. One of my bridesmaids is getting married at the end of July and she has the same RSVP date as me and is sending out her invites at the same time, but I’m having a Labor Day weekend wedding, in a major beach destination city, and 80% of my guests live out of state. Am I crazy? Is this still way too early, or spot on?
I know the “conventional” wisdom is sending them 6-8 weeks out but our timeline is 14 weeks before the event with 5 weeks to RSVP… I really felt ok about this and now it’s like all I can hear are Martha (Stewart) and Emily (Post) and this bridesmaid whispering in my ear.
Post # 3
@BrideAliBean: For what it’s worth, my wedding is August 10th and I sent my invites out in the beginning of April. Mostly because my wedding is in Montana and the majority of our guests are coming from the East coast. My RSVP is also July 1st. If you’re in a situation where you think that guests need extra time to make travel arrangments, maybe request time off from work, book hotels before they are sold out, etc. then I say go for it. You are just looking out for your guests best interest. Plus, I totally understant the whole “I want to know who’s coming!!” thing.
I think that 2 months advanced notice for an RSVP is a little bit early, but if you think you absolutely need that time to make your personalized items, who’s to judge the bride?? Though you may end up with a handful of guests to might say “no” prematurely because they are unsure so far out. Or, a handful of guests that ask if they can let you know at a later date, etc.
Just my 2 cents!
Post # 4
you will be fine!! you might get a handful in past your date, but the ppl who plan on coming will know ahead of time and will appreciate your planning.
Post # 5
@BrideAliBean: I sent mine at 11 weeks, the thought being that July is popular and people need to time to plan. My family doens’t believe in RSVPing (so annoying), but my fiance’s family and friends are great at it. As a plus, I have back over half of my RSVPs 2 months out and already am getting gifts (so thank you notes are done). I say anywhere between 6-12 weeks is fine, with longer for popular weekends.
Post # 6
No you’re not crazy! But that’s early. You may get less rsvps back bc people will forget about it since they’ll look at it & think they have plenty of time to respond. It may not change anything at all. You really never know.
Post # 7
My wedding is August 31st as well. Im sending my invites Mid June with a cut off date of August 9th. 3-4 weeks seems reasonable. But I understand. its frustrating knowing your final count could be off by a hundred for all we know. Especially with a bigger wedding.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I sent my invites the first week of May for my August 3rd wedding because it is Out of Town. I still made the RSVP date 2 weeks before, but I am definitely worried about people forgetting to RSVP because they have so much time. Anyway, I don’t think you’re crazy, but be ready to perhaps make some calls to catch up with people.
Post # 9
@BrideAliBean: I am also getting married 8/31 and will be sending mine out next week for the exact same reason. It’s a holiday weekend and half of our guests are coming from out of town. I want to get them out early enough that guests have time to make hotel arrangements and so that they don’t commit to other plans for the weekend without realizing its our wedding date.
Post # 10
As a guest, for me it would be difficult to give you a for sure answer that far in advance because of my work – lots of people request the holiday weekend off, and there would be a very strong possibility that I could just not know almost two months in advance whether or not I could get the time off for sure. Sorry, I know that’s not exactly the reassurance you’re looking for, it’s just something to keep in mind.
Post # 11
Our date is september 14th, and I started sending out invites this week. I asked people to rsvp by august 1st, knowing that most of my (procrastinating) family members probably won’t reply by then. However, I feel like most of the other bees, I would appreciate the ability to plan early. I say do what you think it’s right, and everything will fall into place 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 12
We sent out Save the Dates almost immediately after we booked the venue and had our wedding website up. I want to send out the invites by June 1st as we have some out-of-staters and are holding our wedding in the peak of tourist season at a touristy venue.
I haven’t thought about the RSVP due dates. I’ll have to confirm with the venue when we need to turn in final numbers. They asked for an initial count a couple of weeks ago.
Post # 13
Your not crazy. I sent mine out last week (however we do have a lot of people traveling). I thought it was early but I had several comments from people I was going to be inviting about how their summers were basically “booked up already”. A lot of people like to book vacations, have other weddings and events…. so I was advised to send out mine soon to make sure I get penned in!
I have one person who has a wedding the night beofre mine, and is competing in a race the next day after my wedding lol. My RSVP date is June 17th…. a) I just wanna know who’s coming because we have a lot of out of towners who are going to wait until the last minute, b) people lag on sending rsvps, so by requesting them that early, if they get sent in a week or 2 late (come on…we all know those people who never do it on time), I wont be too worried or racing to try to track down rsvp’s 2 weeks out. c) theres a few things that hinge on numbers so I dont want to be stuck with those tasks last minute either.
Post # 14
Another August 31 bride here! Very similar situation to yours: most of my guests will have to travel, and I’m hoping everyone can stay at the resort where the wedding is. I also plan on sending my invitations right before Memorial Day (and they might go out even sooner if I have them finished!), but my RSVP date is August 2 (4 weeks before). I’m sure I’ll have to contact some people to get their answers, but I hope to have everything done for the wedding except for the table seating and placecards at that point. July 1 seems a bit early for RSVP deadline, but do what you gotta do!