- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
I am down to the last weeks of wedding planning and I really need some perspective. There have been times where I really love wedding planning and I really don’t expect too much from my bridesmaids, but I do expect them to be good friends.
I haven’t talked to one bridesmaid in months. She’s completely flaky (for example we just had the bachelorette weekend and she has not responded to ONE email about it. They’ve had this planned for 7 months now because it’s been so hard to schedule around everyone. She pulled out of the bachelorette weekend two weeks ago and didn’t even tell me until I asked her about – TWO DAYS before we were suppose to leave, and she told me through a text.) I don’t think that she’s ever asked me one question about the wedding, didn’t respond to any of the other bridesmaids when they tried to arrange a trip to try on their dresses, she flaked on hair and makeup (told me that she wanted it and then changed her mind again without telling me, I had to ask her to confirm bc of the contract), and I’m just so disappointed that she’s been so absent throughout all of this.
Same with another bridesmaid. We used to talk all the time but ever since I got engaged she’s been pretty absent too. We had to change the date of the wedding and I called her about it (especially because she said that she could only be in the wedding on certain dates), and she never called back. Just little things like that. I understand that my wedding is not and should not be everyone’s priority, but I really wish that I had some support from certain people.
Another bridesmaid is a best friend that I’ve had for years. I really think sometimes that we’re only friends because of history. She is pretty selfish and always has been, and usually I am pretty understanding about…but at the bachelorette weekend she was really tired I guess and whenever we went out she would put her head on the table, close her eyes, pretend to go to sleep, complain all the time, expect everyone to cater to her (dinner choices, which bar or club to go to, spending time at the pool, what she wanted to wear because it was different from the outfits that were selected, etc.) It was hard because it was a group of 6 girls and we can’t just do whatever ONE girl wants. It was just a little frustrating to have to deal with her attitude and I’m just worried that it will be like that on the day of the wedding.
Thank goodness that my Maid/Matron of Honor is pretty much the best in the world. But the weird issues with some of my friends has made me feel a little sad and I know this might sound dumb but I just worry that this will happen on the wedding day. Has anyone experienced this kind of behavior, and am I expecting too much? I promise that I have not asked for much. No one has helped me with any wedding-related tasks yet because I haven’t needed help and I know everyone is busy, but I feel like a lot of these things are just common courtesy…don’t complain about someone else’s bachelroette party, don’t flake out on the last minute (and if you have to, please let me know a little earlier or not through a text), just try to be a FRIEND. If I’m being a bridezilla please let me know because this has been bothering me. Thanks.