Post # 1
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now but he has yet to propose. I’m starting to get impatient and I want to know: am I crazy?? We started seeing each other officially after a couple weeks of dating. Four months later we were living together and talking candidly about marriage. Now, three years later we have most aspects of our wedding planned, we’ve talked rings, honeymoon. where we want to live, our children are named for goodness sake, EVERYTHING. We have discussed every aspect of our future and we talk marriage and kids on a daily basis. So what’s the hold up?? Has anyone been in a similar situation? I feel like I’m nuts for being impatient.
Post # 2
BrynRyley: Why don’t you bring it up casually “would you want to go look at rings so we can get an idea of what we both like?”. His response should give you an idea of what he’s thinking.
Post # 3
BrynRyley: You need to talk to your SO. Only he knows why he’s not proposing.
It may be that he’s planning something special. It could also be that he doesn’t want to marry you and is just talking about marriage to appease you. It could be something in the middle, you need to talk to him about it.
Post # 4
BrynRyley: I think “what’s the hold up” should be directed towards him 🙂
Every guy is different – my FI and I went looking at rings about 5-6 months after we started dating, and even after he bought the ring, he still waited another 5 months to propose lol he planned out a special date day for us (which took a lot of logistics plannjng), and I couldn’t have been happier!
So if you’d really like to know, I would consider asking him directly. Men think differently than we do, and if he’s the guy for you, you’ll have to trust that he’s doing his best!
Post # 5
onthefritz: Well a few months ago his sister and her boyfriend were looking at rings and he brought it up, even showed me the ring they picked as kind of a hint and I told him to ask my sister or take her shopping with him cause I don’t want to know the exact style I’m gettIng. Again, we talk about this stuff constantly so it’s really hard to tell what’s happening or to gauge his reaction. It’s all extremely open. He always makes it sound like it’s any day now, thats what is so frustrating!
Post # 6
I was in the same situation. We were at just under the 3yr point, and had been going to a lot of weddings. I knew marriage was on the table, as we had “the talk” but just didn’t know when it would happen. I definitely caught the marriage flu, and started to drive myself crazy. I brought it up a bunch, and he told me that he was going to do it, but wanted to when he felt ready, and not just because he knew I was growing impatient.
So, I stopped bringing it up, and 4 months later he proposed. I was quite shocked as I didn’t even think it was going to happen that year.
I’m not really sure what my advice is, just that you’re not alone. Just talk to him, see where he stands, and then let it be.
Post # 7
BrynRyley: You’re definitely not crazy! My SO and I have been together a shorter time than you – 1.5 years .. he took me to look at rings in December last year and I picked one out .. Still waiting! I’m being as patient as possible 🙂
Post # 8
I’m in basically the same boat as you.. Best of luck to you!
Post # 9
If you are getting inpatient maybe asking him for a timeline, when he wants to get engaged, when he wants to get married, when he wants to start having kids. Disscuss your wishes and desires. Sounds like you are on the right track and hes going to do it soon.