Post # 1
Im still jetlagging, so Im up now at 4am, and my shower is at 11am!
I have two questions bees, please help..
1) Due to online registry lists, I know 53 out of 70 of the gifts people are giving me. Do I have to get a friend to write down everyones name and what they got me? I dont want anyone to have to do that, its so boring. can i get away with not having someone do this, or is it essential?
2) How do I block out negative energy? Ive had some people around me that will be at the shower who have been mean and hurt my feelings…im hoping the other people there who will have a much more loving energy will take over.
I just wish I had the capacity to not dwell on the negativity and hurt. I really want today to be happy. I got really bummed yesterday by some mean spirited family members.
Post # 3
@Evie19: Yes to the name taking for your gifts. You need to send out thank-you cards, and the name son the cards may not only be the name on the registry (ie on person buys it for a family gift etc)
You know the negative energy will be there, so stay near the positive people, and surround yourself with them at all times, like a sheild. You will be fine!
Post # 4
@Take The Reins: cant i just make sure i save all the cards? i feel bad getting one of my friends to do this, its going to be so boring for them…:-/
Yes I need to focus on the positive energy in the room. i cant shake off my hurt at the moment though..
Post # 5
Every shower I’ve been too (bridal or baby) someone has always written givens down, its a common thing most all Bridesmaids/MOH’s would know to do so don’t feel bad for asking someone to (although I think someone will just do it without you having to ask) Any time I’ve done it I was very happy to.
As far as the bad energy.. you only get 1 bridal shower and you want to look back and remember all the amazing people there to support you and would hate for you to look back and regret having let negative people bring you down on such a special day. There are always going to be those people who are pretty miserable and like to brings others down. Just rise above it and enjoy being showered with love from all those people who delight in your happiness!
Post # 6
@misrusticj: Thanks so much! Thats good advice.
I’ll get one of my friends to write down the names…ugh I hate asking them though! Cause its not a regular 20 person shower, we are 70 people!! yikes!!
Post # 7
@Evie19: First let me say that I’ve never had a bridal shower (I was married before, and now I’m engaged to the most amazing guy), but have been to a few. I may not have the best advice!
 I’d think it may be helpful to have a friend write down the name and what they got. If there’s a lot of stuff, I know I get scatterbrained. Even if you can look it up, it may just be helpful to have one list. I did it for a friend at her baby shower recently and honestly, I was not bored by it at all – but I love to make lists.
 Eep. I don’t know really! Negativity will always be there, focus on the good. For me, I save a few text messages in my phone – a few cute ones from my partner, sweet ones from my bestie, and just messages that boost me or make me smile. Then, when I’m depressed or stressed, I can just quickly look at one or a few messages and it really helps me. I was so freaked out and stressed before presenting a workshop this past week (and someone basically made a jab at me 10 minutes before!!) so I had those messages and it helped. I went to the lady’s room and they had a couch so I just sat foro a minute and breathed deep. I know some relaxation exercises so I did that.
Post # 8
@Evie19: I was the gift writer at my cousin’s shower of about 60 people, and I didn’t mind AT ALL! I felt kinda special being the one asked to do it actually. Everyone will just basically be sitting around watching you open gifts for that time anyway, so I’m sure your friend won’t mind!! If you still feel bad, maybe give her a little gift like some candy or lip gloss or something. Actually, do you have a younger sibling or cousin or something? I feel like a teenage girl might be really happy to be involved too and could still handle the task.
As for negative energy… just ignore it! If you’re happy, everyone else will be happy too. This is your day, don’t dwell on other people. I hope you have so much fun at your shower, update us on how it goes 🙂
Post # 9
Just have whomever write the gift received on the actual card. Then they don’t have to worry about writing names of people they don’t know, just what the present is. Open the card, announce who it’s from, and then hand over the card. Much easier this way.
Edit: This is after the fact so hopefully you enjoyed your shower, maybe others can garner a little info from this post.