(Closed) Need some practical and emotional advice re: shower…

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Evie19: Yes to the name taking for your gifts.  You need to send out thank-you cards, and the name son the cards may not only be the name on the registry (ie on person buys it for a family gift etc)

You know the negative energy will be there, so stay near the positive people, and surround yourself with them at all times, like a sheild.  You will be fine!

Post # 5
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Every shower I’ve been too (bridal or baby) someone has always written givens down, its a common thing most all Bridesmaids/MOH’s would know to do so don’t feel bad for asking someone to (although I think someone will just do it without you having to ask) Any time I’ve done it I was very happy to.

   As far as the bad energy.. you only get  1 bridal shower and you want to look back and remember all the amazing people there to support you and would hate for you to look back and regret having let negative people bring you down on such a special day.  There are always going to be those people who are pretty miserable and like to brings others down. Just rise above it and enjoy being showered with love from all those people who delight in your happiness!

Post # 7
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Evie19: First let me say that I’ve never had a bridal shower (I was married before, and now I’m engaged to the most amazing guy), but have been to a few. I may not have the best advice!

[1] I’d think it may be helpful to have a friend write down the name and what they got. If there’s a lot of stuff, I know I get scatterbrained. Even if you can look it up, it may just be helpful to have one list. I did it for a friend at her baby shower recently and honestly, I was not bored by it at all – but I love to make lists. 

[2] Eep. I don’t know really! Negativity will always be there, focus on the good. For me, I save a few text messages in my phone – a few cute ones from my partner, sweet ones from my bestie, and just messages that boost me or make me smile. Then, when I’m depressed or stressed, I can just quickly look at one or a few messages and it really helps me. I was so freaked out and stressed before presenting a workshop this past week (and someone basically made a jab at me 10 minutes before!!) so I had those messages and it helped. I went to the lady’s room and they had a couch so I just sat foro a minute and breathed deep. I know some relaxation exercises so I did that. 


Post # 8
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Evie19: I was the gift writer at my cousin’s shower of about 60 people, and I didn’t mind AT ALL! I felt kinda special being the one asked to do it actually. Everyone will just basically be sitting around watching you open gifts for that time anyway, so I’m sure your friend won’t mind!! If you still feel bad, maybe give her a little gift like some candy or lip gloss or something. Actually, do you have a younger sibling or cousin or something? I feel like a teenage girl might be really happy to be involved too and could still handle the task.

As for negative energy… just ignore it! If you’re happy, everyone else will be happy too. This is your day, don’t dwell on other people. I hope you have so much fun at your shower, update us on how it goes 🙂

Post # 9
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Just have whomever write the gift received on the actual card.  Then they don’t have to worry about writing names of people they don’t know, just what the present is.  Open the card, announce who it’s from, and then hand over the card.  Much easier this way.

Edit:  This is after the fact so hopefully you enjoyed your shower, maybe others can garner a little info from this post.

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