(Closed) Need some reassurance!

posted 5 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 16
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45 posts
Newbee

debcon15:  First of all your dress is gorgeous! It looks like it was made for you!!!  Your waist is amazing, you look so tall in it, the corset is lovely and the beading is divine!

From the beginning I didn’t notice anything about your arms.  (I scrolled to the photo before reading your text).  Your arms looks lovely, and perfectly sized.  You have lovely skin! Very rosey and warm!

 

If you’re concerned about them, but don’t want to wear a bolero have you though about getting off the shoulder cap sleeves?  Though I don’t think you need it, you look great!

Post # 17
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

debcon15:  First of all… wowzers that dress is a knockout! Secondly, I am the same way with my arms so I totally get it. I assure you that it’s in your head, but if you want an easy way to tone up the arms without losing weight overall (since your dress fits you like a glove)… this is going to sound crazy… but get a shake weight off amazon or at target or walmart.

I know they look absurd. But a bee on another thread suggested it and I’ve been using one at night while I watch TV and I’m telling you it’s made a difference (and yes my Fiance makes all kinds of fun of me). I’ve also been eating healthier but between the two I’ve lost an inch on my arms since January. Again, I don’t think you need to I personally think you’re going to be a stunning bride but wanted to pass along the tip!

Post # 20
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45 posts
Newbee

debcon15:  Oh your skin is lovely! You’ll be a blushing bride for sure!

Post # 21
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

debcon15:  Firstly, how amazing do you look in that dress?! the bling and the ruching is on point girl!  I totally get how you’re feeling cos I have the big arm syndrome as well, since i was kid I started trying to figure out ways to make my arms seem smaller, like when posing for a picture… Ive also been told that they arent as bad as I feel they are, but hey we’re always our own worst critics right?! 

So like you I dont want to wear a bolero either (wedding is gonna be on a May day in Georgia ๐Ÿ˜‰ … my strategy  is to use the veil to camouflage my arms , Ive seen it on other brides, and it really does take the eyes away from the arms and makes them look slimmer… of course I also plan on weight training and toning exercises, but am also realistic that they will only do so much and the veil is definitely going ot help me get my mind off my arms on to the face of my handsome hubby to be..

Good luck and I know youre gonna look so beautiful on your wedding day! <3

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

debcon15:  Yep! Im actually going to change into another dress for the reception so I have arm worries as well… also yesterday I was working with my trainer and saw my arms in the mirror and it was kinda disheartening… my other strategy is to have my hair down during the reception to camouflage it as well…. 

You might the only person who might get this experience I recently had…. I was at the mall and in the line in front of me was this girl who had the most perfect toned arms , but scribbled all over them were badly done tattoos of different peoples names (like atleast 10)… and thta was so sad to me that she was given such a great natural gift and she would just have permanent scribbles all over it! (It should be noted I love love tattoos but i think they should have artistic merit, and be done properly so the lines are clean, etc)… oh well first world problems I guess ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

debcon15:  I WISH my arms looked like yours!!! 

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2015

debcon15:  she was probably just trying to help you don’t need to tell anyone you don’t like your weight as a plus size they just see and assume you want to be thinner I know it happens to me too it sucks but think of it this way its just people showing they care about you it never came to their minds it would be rude.

To answer your original question I know its latebut I have a point to add that no one else did, its that you have to think of what your guests would think not us because we are all bigger ourselves. Of course people notice our flabby bits though of course they do or how do they see to compliment even our tiniest weightlosses like I wouldn’t see a difference in my body if I lost 5lb but the girls at work have. I know my family gossip after wedding will be about my weight, especially friends I have coming who haven’t seen me in a while they are definitely going to notice I am fatter.

But the real question is does it matter what they think of my weight nooo they probably won’t say anything to my face and anyway if they do it will be compliments this is going to be the happiest day of my life I don’t even care that I don’t look like a model in my dress I am marrying the man I love and that’s the only important thing.

Your dress is beautiful and its the smile that makes a bride beautiful not the size.

Although June is long enough to tone up if it would make you feel better I recommend insanity it didn’t get me to loose weight because I didn’t diet but it did firm all that I have I noticed some differnce in only a week.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

you look awesome, get a full lenghth veil if you are uncomfortable about your arms. most importatly enjoy your wedding day

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