(Closed) Need some reassurance about my wedding

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
241 posts
Helper bee

If the small group you are having knows each other and will talk then I think you will be fine but if you are having a lot of couples from different places that don’t know anyone else, you may need to do something to break the tension. What about using an ipod instead of a dj so people can dance if they want without you spending money?

Post # 4
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have the same anxiety about having a boring wedding. I ended up saying yes to getting a DJ though. I am so worried though that no one will dance and that’s my biggest fear. We are also not doing anything like a garter toss or special dances beyone a first dance. 

Maybe you could do something fun that can get people talking and socializing. I have been looking at doing mad libs put out on the tables and having guests fill them out. They are funny and people can read them to each other and that can get people talking/loosening up as well. Also, I know you said you don’t want a photobooth, but I will say I’ve heard from people that they are always a big hit. Especially, if you have younger people there you could try and do a DIY photo booth. Set up a sheet and hand made props. (Like the mustache on a stick, haha!) and I think I’ve seen people just have someone manning a camera or maybe you could even just set out throw away cameras and develop the film later on???? Little things like this could just keep people mingling and help, so people aren’t just sitting their staring at eachother! 🙂

Oh, another one I’ve seen is napkins with fun trivia facts about the bride and groom. Or you could put it out at the tables. Maybe even like a multiple choice thing where you guess what the answer is. I’ve seen this done at showers too, of course. But when I saw the napkins I thought it was cute to do at a reception.

Post # 5
81 posts
Worker bee

what about adding a little entertainment to your cocktail hour. what about a guitarist or accordian player. you could even do a cupcake station or something. it sounds like all you need is a little something playful to make it pop. i think your wedding sounds lovely.

Post # 6
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If you can’t afford a DJ I second the idea of the ipod at least for background music or hiring a single musician.  Also if possible I would have a combination of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks.  Unless it is for religious reasons it comes across strange to have a dry wedding from a guests perspective- especially if the wedding is at night.  If you are really against the alcohol make a cute signature drink like a mix your own arnold palmer with the lemonade and iced tea served in separate drink dispensers. 

Also are you sure that no one will dance?  I think many people expect music at a wedding since it is a big celebration even if it is a small crowd.  I think you can get away with skipping the first dance but not having music seems like something you might regret in the long term.  

Best of luck!




Post # 8
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First, your avatar is amazing.

I think the suggestion of an iPod for some background music is a good one. Do you want to do maybe a slideshow or something like the newly wed game?

Post # 9
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What about some party games? With 40 people you can totally play. People get into stuff like that.

Post # 10
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d incorporate a few distractions throughout the night, but my mom’s point of view is that people should be conversing.  A toast or two (maybe with sparkling grape juice), maybe a trivia game…  My reception music is all on an iTunes playlist on my laptop.

Think of what a celebration means to you, and incorporate that sort of thing.  For me, it’s Snoopy Dancing, upbeat music, silliness, and explosions (we’re having fireworks afterwards – there’s a huge fireworks outlet on the way back from the airport.)

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