(Closed) Need some suggestions…not sure what to do

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Hmm… Actually, I think you’re going about it a little backwards, and possibly overthinking it.

Why not send a simple save-the-date first – you could do your magnet date idea stuck to a card with summarized accommodation info.  I would mention the holiday weekend and discounted rate and what % off it is on the card so it’s a clear nudge to decide and book.  I’d also give a short list of alternative hotels they can look into in the area – maybe say 20 miles away, 10 miles away, etc.  If I saw that $169 was like 65% off the usual price, I would definitely be checking it all out ASAP so I don’t get stuck with the crazy rate.  Then you can just send your invitations at the normal time – like 6-10 weeks before the wedding with all the specifics.

You have to remember your guests are adults who, given the pertinent info, can handle their arrangements in a timely manner.

We hope!!!

Does that help at all?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with @tarlonda: … I think you are overthinking it & trying to control the situation (I can’t blame you, but still)… Essentially its a destination wedding for most of your guest list.

The purpose of the save the date is just that – to notify of the wedding date, so guests can plan accordingly & make necessary travel arrangements. Ours is a similar situation. I sent Save-The-Date Cards & gave all travel/accommodation info (incl deadlines) on our website.

The purpose of the invitation is not as much of the literal invite (implied with a STD) but more to provide full event information, finalize details, get actual head counts & formalize the event, as well as remind your guests. If you send invite now, it defeats the purpose & you’re guests will forget/misplace it/won’t have ability to plan this far out (do you know what your life will be like in April, outside of wedding world?)

Sorry to not exactly give you what you’re looking for, but… just my HO.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree with the PP. I know that Save-The-Date Cards are not as common in Europe as they are in the US, but our international guests didn’t seem to have any confusion as to what they were.

And honestly, I’m not sure that a “reminder” is the best idea. I think your heart is in the right place but so long as you include a statement somewhere on the STD and/or your wedding invite, “please contact hotel before Dec. 15” (or whatever the date is), your guests can handle it. I have to say that if I got an invite and then a “reminder” (versus a STD and then the invitation), I’d feel kind of badgered. The STD followed by invite is a courtesy to the guests by notifying them so they can make travel arrangements as tarlonda said. An invite followed by a reminder suggests more of an obligation.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I did this. Sent my invites out 6 months early for my overseas friends and family – I had the RSVP date 2 months before the wedding but we got RSVPs as early as 5 months out. I didn’t send a reminder and everyone remembered to turn up. I think you’re slightly overthinking it. Don’t worry, you’re a traveller, you know, if you book a flight 6 months in advance there is no way that you’re going to forget it! Send out your invites, pat yourself on the back because you’ve done so and wait for the RSVPs to come in and don’t worry about it otherwise.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think if it’s local folks and friends/family I would probably shoot them a friendly text a couple weeks before going “I can’t wait to see you at the wedding”. I vaguely remember doing that for a few friends who I wasn’t sure if they would remember. But yes, I understand your concern. That being said, out of all the people who attended our wedding reception only one local girl didn’t come and that’s because she wrote it down for the wrong weekend in her diary. 

So yeah, shoot them a friendly reminder text – it feels less formal and that close to the wedding the last thing you’re going to want to do is another trip to the post office! 

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