(Closed) Need some support, cant stop crying..called the whole thing off..(long)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m so sorry you are going through this, but it sounds like you are much better off with out him in your life.  He sounds like a complete d-bag (sorry)… but that’s ridiculous that he’s on all those dating sites the moment you guys break up.  You definitely made the right decision to leave him! You are still so young, you can definitely find someone who will be more mature & treat you better. Hope you feel better soon!

Post # 4
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7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@MissEMich:  I’m sorry.  That is a lot to have to pay off. But you are much better off, because you dodged a bullet, it is a small price to pay in the long run.  

Post # 5
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188 posts
Blushing bee

@MissEMich:  These girls are not prettier or better, they are easier. You are better than his treatment of you. This is a blessing and he is stepping aside so that bigger and better things can come into your life.

Good luck with your interview!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@creativeplannertobee:  +1.

@MissEMich:  Thank your lucky stars you dodged a bullet. Your REAL man is out there.. and now you’re free to meet him. It will be hard, but think positive. You now have a future where you can actually be happy. Just be patient and kind with yourself in the meantime. It will be okay – BIG HUGS!

Oh and please please please stop looking at anything he’s doing. Delete him from your phone, facebook, EVERYTHING. You do NOT need to see what he’s up to. Just face forward and start moving on with your life. Looking back will just pile on added stress.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m really sorry you’re going through this : ( As much as it hurts right now I’m 100% sure you’re going to look back on this breakup as the best thing that ever happened to you! He’s brought you down enough, emotionally & financially, now it’s time to cut all ties with him, block him online, & rebuild your life. It royally sucks that you’re stuck with all these wedding bills, but you’re young and will recover quickly. He’s only going after young girls because he knows he’s too much of a child for any smart woman to put up with! You deserve so much better & you will find someone who cherishes you!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Honestly hun, he sounds like a loser to me, and I think you deserve better. This is a costly lesson, but in the long run I think you will regret calling off the wedding a lot less than you would regret marrying him. So go get that new job, get your finances in order, take some time to heal, and then move on with you life. Someday you will find someone who makes you so much happier than this guy, someone who makes you feel beautiful.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I know it sucks right now, but you’re probably getting off light compared to how bad your life would be if you had actually married him.

I can’t believe the dumbass thought you would leave the new car with him when it’s in your name only.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MissEMich:  I’m so sorry.  I actually laughed a bit at the end, not at you, but because it’s so familiar.  Six years ago, the “Love of my life” ditched me after four years for a little girl.  To be fair, we were 26.  She was graduating high school.  I was heartbroken.  Just absolutely heatbroken.  

I knew he wasn’t good for me.  He was a liar, dabbled in drugs, and I knew he was never going to go anywhere in life.  But that darn love thing, it just gets you sometimes.

If I saw that guy today, I’d thank him.  I would genuinely and absolutely thank him.  Him ditching me for that girl is the best thing that ever happened to me.  I met my husband.  I got away from those kinds of people (I’m not like they were, but they still pull you down), I have two gorgeous girls and my life is good.  None of that would have ever happened if he wouldn’t have left and I hadn’t decided not to chase him.

I know it hurts now, but even now you can see him for what he is.  It’ll be rough, but there will come a time, and it really won’t be long, in which you’ll be so darn glad it’s over and you’re ready for someone new who truly deserves you and truly wants to be with you and only you.  Don’t let this dent your self-esteem.  He obviously doesn’t know a good thing when he has it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly, your situation sucks! But good for you for moving on.  He’s probably going to try and come around again (they always do). Don’t let him back into your life!  You’re still young, believe me 25 is really young, and it sounds like you have a bright future ahead of you.  I know it’s hard to do but eventually you will forget about him & meet somebody that’s not a jerk!  Concentrate on the good things, you got the new car (I know you have to pay for it but at least he’s not driving it), you got the dog, and you’ve graduated!  Yayyy those things are awsome!  Especially graduating–Congratulations!  Take care.

Post # 12
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MissEMich:  Aw honey, it’s for the best. This guy is no good. Regroup, focus on yourself for a while, and it WILL get better. Trust me. I spent 5 years with a guy who was a total loser and after a few months, the sense of relief I felt to be away from him took away from the sadness I felt.

*Hugs*

Post # 13
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1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh yeah, don’t worry about your deposits, at least you found out now instead of after the wedding!

Post # 14
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Girl you are better off without him.Talk to your venue.Maybe they will allow you to sale your date to another bride to recoup the costs.I would reimburse half of the bridesmaids and ask him to reimburse the other half.Then hopefully you sale them to get some of your money back.Keep your head up and keep looking forward.You are good enough. You will get a job and you will find someone that loves and appreciates you.Good luck on your interview!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It really sounds like this is the best thing that could have happened to you. While it sucks that you are out such a large sum of money, you are so much better off without him! He sounds like such a douchebag.

Thinking of you <3

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