(Closed) Need some support, cant stop crying..called the whole thing off..(long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

He’s a total ass. I am so sorry you are going through this but seriously, your life is going to be so much If you have not already done so, close the account(s) with both your names on it. What a horrible mess he has left you with! I am so angry that he seemily is getting away with all this sh*t. If you can at all afford it, do talk to a lawyer. Stay strong wpoman! Believe it or not, someday you will be so glad this happened and that you did not marry this loser!

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This guy is one of the biggest assholes I’ve ever read about on this site. Him hitting on other girls is the least of your worries. I’d be worrying about my money and my dog. He is a complete and utter loser. Don’t waste one ounce of energy wondering what he’s up to, answering his calls, checking up on him, etc. If he manages to reach you, I’d say just one thing, “you are a fucking loser and I’m glad you are out of my life for good.” (Click)

Post # 49
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MissEMich:  He sounds awful.  Please keep in mind he is doing these immature things to intentionally hurt you.  He sounds like an emotionally stunted 14 year old boy.  I hate to be so brash, because I know it is hard when you are in love with someone, but sometimes you need to take a step outside of yourself and take the love goggles off.  Do a little exercise I always used to do myself during breakups.  Make a list of things you like about him and things you don’t like.  Sounds simple, but it could really help you see things differently.  Also, from your post, I might be assuming too much, but it sounds like you may have some issues related to porn and insecurities based around him with other women, which is tough no matter what, but he ought to have been doing everything in his power to reassure you that you are special and the only girl for him, and it sounds like he wasn’t.  You deserve to be with someone who not only just says he loves you, but shows that to you with his actions, as well.  You don’t deserve to be with someone who is apathetic towards your feelings and concerns.  Look at this new job as starting a new chapter in your life.  You are young and getting a fresh new start without him.  Please do not waste another thought on this non-contributing zero.  And don’t forget the oldest saying in the book, “You are who your friends are” If he’s hanging around someone you describe as vile, chances are, your ex isn’t that far behind his friend, and guys like that are 30 and single for a reason.  Don’t worry one more second.  Everything is going ot be alright.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m so happy you had enough courage to stand up for yourself. I know women who would still stick by their man because they would be too afraid to leave. Your story nearly brought me to tears. I sincerely wish the best for you 🙂

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 1999

Hello there, I can’t offer much in the way of advice apart from saying that we are all here for you so much as possible. I think you have done the right thing (though it may be hard now) and yea, I am in agreement with a number of past posters: he seems a bit unhinged. It’s better to get out now rather than later, I think!.

 

Thoughts from across the pond!

Post # 54
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Helper bee

One day – you’ll realize that pretty doesn’t matter and you’ll feel sorry for those girls that are going to be suffering from him. Just think – they can be all kinds of pretty – but if they get together with him, they’ll be dealing with the same shit that you had to put up with for the rest of their life. Guys like that don’t change for a long while.

Post # 55
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Im so sorry. You are a smart girl who will make the right choice.  I hope you don’t underestimate your feelings. You don’t need a person who will make YOU feel bad or not listen to your concerns. That’s not someone to pine over. I hope you find what’s best for you! Keep your head up! 

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissEMich:  This guy sounds like he has a mental problem.  Or he’s just a true narcissicist who craves attention from whomever he can get it from 24/7.  You don’t need all that drama.

Surround yourself with girlfriends and go do something you have always wanted to do.  F that scumbag!

Post # 59
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

you are smart pretty and educated- a life with a guy like this seems horrible!! it would be settling for a life where he is unfaithful, sketchy, and a douchbag. Even a year of tears (and i hope you dont experience that) is MUCH better than a LIFETIME commited to someone who you wil feel unsexy and not secure.

I understand as us girls, we get competitive and self-conscious and it’s uncomfortable that he is looking at these other girls-but when it’s the right guy he will only look at you-his most beautiful girl. I know it’s killing you that someone you cared about is looking for other girls, but you know it’s not you. It’s his nature, and he is sketchy and will be doing this with no matter what woman he is with.

You can sell your dress, and money lost will be money lost-and though that sucks, again,you are now opening up space in your young ife to have that MAGICAL and CLASSY man to step in. You are not going to spend your life miserable, but rather happy. I wish you lots of luck and hugs butyou did the right thing…

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissEMich:  I kinda figured from your name you were from around here somewhere 🙂  Are you up in Ypsi?

Yeah he definitely is… I think the best scenario is to ignore him until he doubts his own existence.  That will drive him crazy.  And he deserves it.  

Post # 61
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Newbee

@MissEMich:  Ever hear that Garth Brooks song “She’s gonna make it, he never will…” I think that applies here.  It hurts now and it sucks and it’s horribly unfair, but when you look back on your life someday, you will be so glad this happened.  I wish you all the best and keep your chin up!

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