- 6 years ago
Hello fellow bees!
I am new to this board and I know my situation is not all that unique but I wanted to see if I could get some insight/encouragement from other bees about what to do.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year 8 months. We have a great relationship and he is such a good guy but I am starting to get impatient about waiting for a ring. He said that he can see us being married and that he sees us having a future, but I am wondering how long he is going to drag his feet?
What makes me even more concerned is that I always pictured myself getting engaged before moving into together but now I find myself in a situation that I had no clue would ever happen. He told me that he wont move forward unless we live together first. I am so concerned because I am supposed to be moving in three weeks and I am freaknig out that because I am doing this he will drag his feet even more. He told me to have more faith in him and our relationship and I said that I do have faith but that does not completely alleviate my concerns.
He is a slow mover but it makes me wonder how slow is he going to move. He knows that I am really sensitive to the situation and he knows how big of a deal this is for me to move in with him without a ring…it is basically one if the most important things to me in my whole entire life and I am compromising on it.
I talk to his mom and tell her how I think he is taking forever and I am getting discouraged. She tells me that it will happen(his mom and I have a really good relationship and are close, she says all the tie how I will be her daughter in law someday) but I am starting to have my doubts.
I have a date in my head when I will be ready to walk away if he has not proposed. I hope that day never has to come.
Does anyone know how to handle the anxiety and stress that comes from situations like this? Any insight would be appreciated.