Post # 1
Hi Bees! Help me out!
I have a 7 year old cousin that I want to involve in the ceremony but I can’t figure out where.
Here’s the thing – my fiance and I each have a niece and a nephew, so there’s our flower girls and ring boys. Also, she can’t hand out wedding programs because they are going to be at everyone’s place setting at the reception.
Any other cute ideas for a way I can involve her?
Post # 3
Why don’t you just have two flower girls? Lots of people do that…
Post # 4
I already have 2 flower girls and 2 ring boys. I thought it might be off to have 3 girls and 2 boys.
Post # 5
I had 3 flower girls, 3 jr groomsmen and 1 ringbearer–all our nieces and nephews–I couldn’t leave anyone out. The jr groomsmen really didn’t do anything but walk up the aisle. I have seen kids carrying banners that say “here comes the bride”. There is also the rarely used “train attendant” who makes sure your train and veil are smoothed out, etc.
Post # 6
@april30: Create a cute title for her. Chief Flower Girl would be pretty cool if shes older that your nieces in the wedding!
Post # 7
I’d make her another flower girl. Those numbers don’t have to be even. We had 1 flower girl and 2 ring bearers and no one found it strange.
Post # 8
I’m having the same problem! I’d like to involve my cousin who is 8 I think, but I have a daughter who is 4 and my fiance has a son who is 6, so there is our flower girl and ring bearer. And we are trying to keep the wedding small and simple. I was going to think of something for her to do/be at the reception maybe?
Post # 9
You could make her a junior bridesmaid and give her a special role like holding your bouquet during the ceremony. That way she gets to wear a pretty dress and feel like she is adding value/importance. This also frees up your MOH’s hands to fix your train, veil, etc.
Post # 10
I would make her your junior braidesmaid, or just add another flower girl. She could meet and greet everyone at the reception and get them to sign the guest book when they come. I personally think Junior braidesmaid though
Post # 11
I agree that the numbers don’t have to be even…. I am having 2 ring bearers and 1 flower girl
Post # 12
Well, for my wedding, I’m having my 8 (though at the time she’ll be 9) year old neice be a program attendent. But I guess since you’re having them already placed at the table, that would be out.
Is she outgoing or shy? Would she be able to be a junior usher and help seat people? Just make sure the other usher is older and someone she’s comfortable with to kind of watch out for her as well as do their own usher duties.
Post # 13
When I was 10 or so I was the candle lighter for my uncle’s wedding. They had two big rows of candles to be lit near the altar and it was the perfect job for a ‘middle of the road’ kid to do while the bridesmaids were going down the aisle.
Post # 14
My fiancé has a 6 year old sister (who will have just turned 8 when we get married) that we are having as a junior bridesmaid. If you search websites on the age ranges of flower girls and junior bridesmaids, most say junior bridesmaids are supposed to be 8-15, so 7 isn’t very far off