- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My dad was diagnosed with Parkinson’s when I was a kid. He put off his diagnosis even though his hand was obviously shaky all the time and he knew that there was something wrong. When I was 16 he was forced to retire from his job at the mill and go on disablity. (Not his choice, the mill management made him due to safety issues.)
This past winter I went on a trip home to help my mom deal with the issue and realized after being away from home for a long time (I live 4 hours away from my home town) just how bad things had gotten. My dad is now stage 5 Parkinson’s patient. (The last stage.)
He’s completely incontinent and has lost most of his motor function. He needs a power chair for mobility and can’t feed himself anymore. His hands don’t do what he wants them to and I could see that it hurt him when he was unable to shake my fiance’s hand one of the first few times they met.
He’s now in full-time residential nursing care and will be unable to attend my wedding. I sent him an invitation so that he would have a copy in his room. My mom however will be coming to the wedding with my grandparents. I’m worried about how he will feel with her gone for a few days knowing where she is and how he can’t be there to see my big day.
He know his time is coming and it’s made him very depressed and sometimes even suicidal.
It’s really hard for me to think about how unfair life is. Even though Fiance is 30 years older than me, both of his parents are in excellent health and very active and both will be at the wedding.
I just dont know what to do. I want to enjoy my wedding but I don’t know how to handle the feelings of guilt and sadness.
Any support, bees? Anyone been in a similar situation?