Post # 1
Lord knows I have been in worse financial situations, and there are those worse off than me right now. I am feeling a bit bummed about the some little details for the wedding that I won’t be able to do because just about every cent of my paychecks (and please, no lectures about how I ‘should’ have saved, I’m well aware of my financial-flaws) will go to wedding stuff (mainly photographer). I still need to buy overlays (I do want the tables to look nice), which will only be about $60 and then candy for the candy buffet (hello Costco and Smart & Final!), but most is going to photographer. I just realized that I will have no money to get my hair trimmed nor manicure and pedicure before the wedding.
I could forgo the pedicure, but my fingernails and cuticles are uuuugly! I had a bad haircut in January so I have been afraid to get it cut, but I am in desperate need of a trim to get rid of spilt ends. I just wanted to do these little pampering things beforehand. And, I want to feel pretty on the wedding day.
FH and I are paying for everything ourselves and I didn’t get a shower, so I wanted to treat myself. Anyone else have to give up little details because money and time just ran out?
Thanks for letting me vent and whine!
Post # 3
Poor thing! I feel so bad. Maybe treat yourself using a credit card?
Post # 4
Sign up for as many Groupon sites as you can. There are always deals for 50% or more off at salons and such. Then you can get pampered for a fraction of the price.
Post # 5
Hmm, what about going to beauty school for the manicure and trim? My grandmother does that every week and she dragged there once for a pedi and it was actually really good. And super cheap. And if you only want to trim your hair, it should be safe. I would allow extra time, more than usual. Check it out:)
Post # 6
Could someone close to you like your mom or a Bridesmaid or Best Man maybe treat you to a mani/ pedi as a wedding gift? Have it be a girls day? Overlays look nice and all but I would choose the mani/pedi before that, lol.
Post # 7
You could always do an at-home mani/pedi. I second the Groupon suggestion, too. I <3 Groupon!
Post # 8
Hugs for you beacuse as Brides we spend a whole heap of money on our guests and usually leave ourselves for last….
ID pamper my self before i pampered the tables….but obviously you are into aesthetics as having a photographer is importatnt to you. Must the tables have overlays? is there any other option?
With that being said turn to your MAids, sisters family if you have them and let them know whats up…chances are someone will volunteer to pay for it or do it or something.
Good Luck…and your bridal beauty will shine through regardless 🙂
Post # 9
I’m in an interesting situation: I am an only child, I have been estranged from my mother for years, most of my close friends live about 2-3 hours away and I do not have a bridal party. I have a family member I am super close with, but she HATES traveling, so she hasn’t been physically present to help with stuff (but has been a huge emotional support).
I had one work-friend who awkwardly asked if I wanted a shower (but told me to “hurry up” and decide), but her mood was so odd and abrasive, I declined. Plus, I was so busy helping another friend with her wedding last month, that sucked up a good chunk of any free time I had. Future Mother-In-Law offered to throw a shower, then never responded to my messages and then sent me a text a couple of weeks ago saying she just couldn’t throw the shower because of finances. However, she turns around the following week and tells FH she’ll give him some money for wedding. Huh?
Last week I went for my first dress fitting. An old friend of mine (we’ve been friends for over 20 years) made the trek to the fitting. We haven’t been as close in the past few years, we live in different cities, she has kids (and some drama with one of them) that of course, she has to take care of first and I was busy completing grad school. I was so happy she made it up for the fitting. It was funny though at the end of the visit when she turned to me and said “Wow, so this is like really happening! You’re really getting married. I didn’t think it was real!”
So….this turned into a longer vent than I anticipated! I think I am just feeling a bit like a lonely bride. Part of it is my own fault as I am very indepedent so people sometimes don’t think I need help/support/pomp and circumstance.
I am contemplaing going to the Paul Mitchell school in town for a teeny, tiniest of trims, but I’m also scared they’ll totally screw up my hair. And I suck at home manicure-pedicures. I can paint my nails but can never quite get all the other stuff down.