(Closed) Need to get over it(loooong)

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

I’m so sorry!!  It’s definitely hard to realize when friends aren’t as “good” as you thought they were.  I think this happens to everyone to some degree in their lives, but I can definitely relate.  Sometimes, when you “grow up” and get a husband and family, the change is too drastic for a lot of people who were once your friends to relate to.  Are your friends younger than you or mostly single?  Some probably just don’t “get” it, even though it’s a wedding and it’s so big to you!

You are right though…you’ll still have a blast at your reception, and maybe this situation will help you branch out and find new friends–especially friends who might be more at your stage in life that you can relate to.

Again, so sorry, but keep your chin up!

Post # 4
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am so sorry to hear that, that is the last thing that you should be going through on the most memorable day for you and your Fiance. Just remember that wedding planning really brings out the best and worst of qualities in people, and you really do end up knowing who your real friends are. Just keep your head held high, and I am sure everything will work itself out in the end. Be happy, it is your day, no matter what. For the people that truly want to support you, they will be there.


Post # 5
1652 posts
Bumble bee

Uggg… you got me with the tenth birthday party.  Ahh the angst.  Are you me?  And I’m going through that with my son now. 

Is it possible that since you were married in California, they think this reception isn’t supposed to be a big deal?  Are they perhaps upset that you didn’t have a bigger wedding (DW or local), and invited them to the actual wedding?  Some Destination Wedding couples get heat for that.

The girls who were supposed to be BMs, was this for the local reception only?  Or were they supposed to go to CA too?  Did they know what you were looking for from them at the start? (Ie. Were they excited to be BMs, then afterwards found out it was a Destination Wedding, and couldn’t make it?)

I would take a few days to settle down.  Then try to look at it objectively.  Could they have good reason?  Or misunderstand?  If you do feel close to them, can you call to say you are disappointed and will miss them, and just kind of see how the convo flows?   Maybe you will find that you are basically growing apart.  As your life changes so do your relationships.

Good luck.

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