Post # 1
Omg, I feel like I have no one to talk to about this. We have a dear friend that often overstays his welcome. He works overnight and lives an hour away. He has been coming over lately and I dont think I can take it anymore! He is tired from working over night, so as soon as he gets here he pretty much goes to sleep shortly after. Snores very loudly by the way. Or when he is up, he is on the phone! Why are you here? He leaves the tv blasting all night with the lights on. We only have a two bedroom apartment. Its really bringing to be too much. He is a great friend but as soon as he stepped through my door just now, my mood went south. its ok for him to come over once in a while, but I can’t handle every other day. Not even once every two weeks. I need space, quiet and my bills not running up. Oh and my couch back! I am so gonna have a talk with my Fiance tonight. Can’t take much more of this! Phew, thanks for listening lol
ETA:I just checked on him. He has been here for like 20 minutes, and guess what he is doing? HE IS SLEEP! I seriously can’t right now!
Post # 3
good luck 🙁 that’s no fun at all, i’d lose it.
Post # 4
Horrible!! Next time he calls to say he’s coming over tell him that someone else is visiting!! A few times and maybe he’ll get the hint? Or tell him bluntly that as much as you welcome him that him staying over is starting to impede on your social and personal life.
Not cool at all.
Post # 5
@vickyness: I am one step away, believe me! He has came over when we had other guests before. That doesn’t stop him. My mom thinks he is lonely. I bet he is, he moved far from all of his friends and dont like where he lives too much. Im trying to me my usual sympathedic self, but the little devil on my shoulder is saying “him moving is not your problem!”.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Good for you for talking to your FH about this! This guy is using your place like a crash pad with no respect for you and your privacy. If he is coming over to visit then he should be visiting not sleeping on your couch. Once you and your FH decide on how to handle this most unwelcome guest, have a polite conversation with the guy letting him know what is and isn’t acceptable as far as him coming over to visit. And if you and your FH are okay with him using your place as a crash pad I would ask for some rent to pay for the TV and electricity he uses while there.
He needs to man-up and move closer to his job if he doesn’t like driving an hour after working overnight.
Post # 7
@oneovakind: Aiya… Change your keys? I hope he doesn’t have a key… or if he calls you to crash, ignore his calls and then later respond with “omg i was out sorry!” Sorry… I can be passive aggressive sometimes. =P
ohhh and if he is over so often, you should tell him that he should sublet a room from you and chip in for the utilities! you’re not a charity!
Post # 8
@beachbride1216: lol you wouldn’t believe that I have already asked for rent considering he lives on my couch. He is older than us. When my Fiance and I were teenagers, we used to crash at his place maybe like once a month. I hate to say it but to get away from rules that I should have listened to as a 16 year old. Though I never approved, he would do this when we were living with my Future Mother-In-Law, she felt the same way. Lol I’m turning into her! I talked to his sister (he lives with her) and she isn’t too happy with him staying here either. He spend most of his money and time down here and his neglecting their house that they share rent.
Post # 9
Ugh I have a house guest this week too – she’s not bad but I could kill my fiance for how he’s been acting. I’m currently holed up in my room because I feel like I might go off on him if I go downstairs.