Post # 1
I’m 11 days out.. (eek!).. and need to get my seating chart printed.
3 or 4 of the guests had RSVPed they’d be bringing a date (allowed) but a few still don’t know who exactly their bringing.
I mean I know it’s obvious they’ll be sitting with the person they came with BUT I feel like it’s rude to not have their names listed. Am I over thinking this? WWYD?
Post # 3
I had this same issue and I had to wait until 3 days before the wedding to finish the seating. I think you should wait to use the guest’s name.
Post # 4
My only concern is that one of the people is visiting Nicarauga (sp?) and won’t be back till 2 days before. I have to have it printed yet and that’s cutting it REALLY close…
Post # 5
I agree with PP, if you want to have their name on a place card rather than “so & so + guest” than wait to get their exact name. If there’s only a few, it won’t be too bad to write the last few up a few days before the wedding
Post # 6
I had 1 guest who didn’t know who she was bringing until the day before the wedding. I told her I’d be printing just her name – no “& Guest” – on the seating chart but that there would an extra chair at the table for her guest. It really removed a lot of the hassle. And I don’t think it’s rude. If you haven’t lined up a date by a week out, you’re clearly just bringing a random friend or relative, so what’s the big deal if their name isn’t on the chart?
Post # 7
@sportsgal31: Totally agree. I’d just leave them off, and give them a heads up one on one so you can get started and not mess up your pretty chart with “and guests”. If they don’t know who they’re bringing, their dates probably don’t know either, so you can’t really expect to have your name all printed when you only decided to come a few days in advance.
I’d send one more email asking for the names by X date, and if they can’t tell you, then advise them they won’t be listed, but their seat will be with them.
Post # 8
I got the names for as many +1s as I could before printing our escort cards, but with a few people who never supplied their guests’ names, I ended up just writing “and Guest.” I agree that I prefer names over “and Guest,” but my thought is that if they’re not concerned about getting you the guests’ names, they likely won’t be offended by seeing “and Guest.”
In other words, don’t let this totally throw you off in preparing for your wedding. 🙂
Post # 9
@sportsgal31: Great idea, I agree with you.
Post # 10
I don’t think its a bad thing to have ‘and guest’ in this situation. Obviously the guests these people are bringing are not SOs. If they were, they would have written their name on the RSVP. A random guest/date wouldn’t be annoyed that they are ‘and guest’ since they probably didn’t know they were invited until very close to the wedding.
On the other hand, a wedding we went to last year listed me as ‘and guest’ to my then boyfriend. We had already been dating for over two years and I had met the groom multipule times. But it was an online RSVP with no room to put my name. That was a bit demeaning.