(Closed) Need to slim down – suggestions?!

posted 4 years ago in Fitness
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I hate the gym AND running lol Unless I’m being chased at gun point or by a rabid dog you won’t see me running anywhere. 😂 Everyones body is different but this is what works when I need to slim down quick. Cut carbs (sucks and its hard), ALL junk food, any unnatural sugars and substitute water for snacks between meals. Water really does fill you up and its good for you. Add in at least 30 minutes of walking daily and weight lifting if you’re looking to tone. Try to find an exercise you enjoy so its not such a chore. I have the maxi climber (love/hate relationship) and love skating. I’ve also had quick results with two smoothies a day and a 600 calorie or less dinner. I just make Fiance separate meals for breakfast and lunch if he’s around. Does it piss me off that he gets homemade biscuits, bacon, grits and hash browns while I’m drinking my breakfast? YES! lol But it becomes easier with time. Good luck!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

If you want tailored advice specifcally to guide you and someone to hold you accountable, then you need to hire a personal trainer. If you want to crowdsource general ideas from the internet, there are tons of blogs and fitness websites out there that can help you get started.

No, I don’t believe in forcing yourself to do an exercise you hate, though it is true that you do get better at running the more you do it. But try classes or yoga or weight lifting or something else, there are lots of ways to be active — find something you like.

But really, there’s no way around good nutrition. Nothing should be completely off limits unless you have a medical reason, but yeah, you should balance out pizza with veggies. Get a frozen pizza to make at home and serve it with a side salad to round out the meal. You can find ways to serve things you both like. Experiment with different recipes to make veggies more appealing. Make healthy lunches and snacks for yourself that have nothing to do with what your partner eats. 

20 lbs in five months is pretty doable, but it comes down to commitment and making the changes, moving past excuses. Good luck bee!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m like you in regard to the gym. I hate exercising in public and much prefer working out at home. You can make that work for you, though! My trick is that even when I’m feeling tired, I promise myself I’ll do 10 minutes of a workout DVD. Once I get going with the workout, it’s very rare that I actually quit. Usually that warm up is enough to get me energized to finish the rest. I also put my workout clothes on as soon as I get home so I don’t have that excuse, and I find being dressed to work out is a motivation in and of itself.

I hate running too but will try to do one run a week. Ok, more like a walk/run. I’ll never be able to run a marathon but spending 30 minutes out there does seem to be a good cardio boost for my body. The next time you go for a walk around the block, tell yourself you’ll run one block for every two you walk. That said, you don’t have to do anything you truly don’t enjoy. It’s better to try out a bunch of workouts to find one you like. You’re more likely to stick with it if you enjoy it.

As for eating, try making small changes. You’re right; limiting things like pasta and bread is a healthy habit to get into, but there’s no need to cut them out entirely. Just look at them as a treat, something you don’t necessarily eat every day. Pasta used to be a regular meal in our house but now we probably have it once a month. Instead of getting take out pizza every Friday, we sometimes make our own since we can load it up with veggies and limit the cheese. I try to make salad for dinner one night a week, topped with grilled chicken, black beans, corn, onion, and salsa so it’s filling. A few nights a week I try to make a low-carb dinner, usually grilled pork chops with a veggie side. Sure, we wake up hungry the next morning but it’s not as if we’re going to starve! And be conscious of your portion sizes. If your SO wants to eat something unhealthy and you do too, take a small portion and load the rest of your plate up with a salad or veggies. Or for my pork chop dinner you could make him a single serving of pasta as a side while you have veggies instead. It’d be good if you could find some veggies he can tolerate, though. It’s not healthy for him if he’s not eating them, even if it’s not affecting his waistline he needs those nutrients. He doesn’t have to love eating them (I sure don’t!) but part of being an adult is doing stuff we don’t like becuase we know it’s the right thing to do.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Real talk – you are going to have to decide that the extra expense of buying healthy food to lose weight is worth it. If not, you will just continue eating unhealthy food with your fiancé and continue to gain weight. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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SLOBee :  Agreed

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m on week 9 of Kayla Itsines’ BBG program and I love it. I’ve seen fantastic results so far that I am so, so happy with. I like to do the workouts at home so I just bought or borrowed some light equipment from friends (a 10lb medicine ball, 5 lb weights, and a jump rope are pretty much all you need to start). I have only lost a few lbs so far, but I look quite different and have definitely gotten more toned and gained muscle!

As far as eating healthy, I thought it would be a real struggle for me because I love sugar and desserts, but it’s been a great switch. I just make sure to always have healthy options around like fruit, protein waffles, dark chocolate and dessert-flavored protein bars for when I feel like a treat. Also, Fiance and I have found that are grocery bills are actually cheaper because we are buying less chips, soda, ice cream, etc, and that we are getting more food for our money with all of the veggies and proteins. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

In my opinion, losing weight is primarily about your diet and only secondarily about exercise. Most people love pizza, pasta, sweets etc but choose not to eat them. Heck, I’ve been wanting to have a Big Mac for a few months now but I’m not going to because a) it’s a lot of empty calories and b) it’s not good for my body. Instead, I am much happier to have salad + a protein for dinner every day. In fact, in my experience, if you reduce your carbs and sugar intake, you will soon stop craving for them and, suddenly, a plate full of pasta seems very unappealing.

Even if you are skinny, you can still be very unhealthy if your diet isn’t in order. This should motivate your SO as well; he won’t have a healthy life if he keeps eating like he does, irrespective of whether he gains weight. Food is for nutrition, not for entertainment or satisfaction.

I don’t really recommend running if you hate it, unless you want to start to like it. It won’t happen overnight. Many runners I know, myself included, don’t really like running but continue to go because they feel good afterwards. If you do want to start running, I would start with intervals (i.e. a mix of running and walking) to keep you motivated. In the end, you need to do some exercise, even if it’s a mix of running, cycling, zumba etc., and not allow yourself to make any excuses. Most people feel too tired to go running after work but they still do it because they feel good about it afterwards. That’s the difference between fit and unfit people.

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Sugar bee

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monstaboom :  I understand about the bills, and I truly don’t mean to sound harsh. It just sounds like you are gaining weight because your SO does not eat healthy food and there is no money left over for you to buy healthy food. That doesn’t seem fair.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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monstaboom :  hi fellow bee. Firstly, you need to decide if you actually NEED to get to the shape you were 5 years ago. I still benchmark my weight against 18 year old me but guess what there is no way a 25 year old woman can be of the same shape! You have grown, you have changed, be happy! Secondly, if you absolutely need to lose that weight, you really have to try several methods and see what works best for you. For me it’s cutting down carbs. Replacing pasta with zoodles and rice with cauliflower rice. If I eat ton of meat/chicken/fish with veggies I am never hungry and lose weight. But it’s not for everyone. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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monstaboom :  Honestly the only thing that’s going to help is motivating yourself. I had the same issues, and it took someone being a little harsh with me to motivate me. If you’re too tired after work then get up before. I know I won’t do it after, so I get up at 04:30. I also am really shy and have social anxiety so at first I worked out at home and then when I wanted more of a challenger started going to the gym but because I do go so early it’s not crowded. I really wanted a workout buddy but like you said no one sticks to it so I made the decision that this was important to ME so I was going to have to workout even if it was just ME. As far as food…I kind of had the same issue with DH but we worked around it and he decided to get healthier too. Brown rice, veggies and proteins like beans aren’t too expensive. As far as your unhealthy relationship with food, my nutritionist gave me awesome advice “children give in to every craving they have, adults decide what they want most and plan accordingly” which helped me rein in my diet and only indulge occasionally.

 

Sorry if that was one run on sentence…but what it really comes down to is realizing what you want and dropping the excuses.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

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Navygirl14 :  but what it really comes down to is realizing what you want and dropping the excuses.

This. My main issue is consistancy.

Bottom line no one or thing is going to motivate you. Like Nike’s tagline “Just Do It” is what it comes down to. I hate getting up early, I really don’t enjoy the training process but I do try to push myself because I like seeing my time go down, or my pants start to get looser. I’m Queen of Excuses, It’s to hot, cold, its raining blah, blah, blah. If you really want it you will commit the time and energy to make the necessary changes. 

If you don’t want run, don’t. But find something that you will stick to. Bodys are made in the kitchen, you don’t need expensive, organic foods, but you can make some better choices: drinkiing more water (free), eliminating sugar and limiting bad carbs. Ball is in your court. 

Also, see if you community has a food coop. They tend to offer memberships and/or in exchange for working a shift (say once month). That way you have access to a better quality of food at a lower price. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I also hate running and I’m such a fat kid. I love to eat. In the past year, I lost 30 pounds and am still going. Here are some random things that have helped me (in no particular order): 

1) Start small, but with clear goals. I decided to make sure I walk 10,000 steps a day (my iPhone has a pedometer). At first my goal was 2000, then 4000, then 6000 and so on. Within 5 days I was up to 10,000 and I still try to keep it up. You can walk about 100 steps in a minute, so it’s not hard! 

2) Try to add better foods, instead of focusing on what you can’t have. If you want chicken tenders, go for it…just have broccoli with it instead of fries. If you really need fries, have some…just eat a small portion with grilled fish. If you just try to eliminate stuff, you’ll be miserable. 

3) Use MyFitnessPal to count calories. Everyone’s different, but I swear by counting calories. When I go over my goal, I don’t really lose, but on the weeks I stick with it, I have awesome results. 

4) Get DailyBurn. I prefer to work out at home because I’m lazy (I’m not fat because I’m active…haha). They have an excellent variety of workouts at all sorts of fitness levels that you can do at home. 

5) Drink water! Everyone always says this, but it’s so true. Sometimes I’m not hungry, I’m just thirsty. Drinking water helps with not feeling hungry all the time.

6) The mentality that helped me the most was thinking to myself “Every choice I make today will bring me closer to reaching my fitness goal, or will take me farther from it.” I would think that to myself when I wondered whether or not to take the stairs, grab a muffin from the break room, or pack my lunch. Every single little decision–that might seem insignificant at the time–ADDS UP! Make good choices! 

7) Lastly, I didn’t try to do all this at once. It’s good to implement 1-2 new things at a time so you have time to form new habits. You can’t wake up one day and be perfect. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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monstaboom :  Time for compromise. Surely there’s something healthy your SO would eat. To me that sounds like an excuse to keep eating badly. Diet is everything. You can exercise all you want and eat like shit and you still won’t lose. Start tracking calories on my fitness pal. Make sure you give yourself a cheat meal to curb those cravings! Its really hard to start but I’ve found once I’m in the groove, it’s super easy to keep up. For exercise, try walking. I have a treadmill at home and I’ve been walking 4 miles a day. 

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