(Closed) Need to vent!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Sorry you had a bad day with FH’s family.  I don’t understand why some people can’t just be happy for others. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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snowysaku:  Oh well. Stay friendly and do what you can to form a relationship. You can’t control what they say and do. It doesn’t really matter what their opinion is.

This is an opportunity for some self reflection. How well do you really know each other? Are you preparing for marriage with premarital counseling? If any of her concerns are partly valid, address them with your Fiance and ignore anything else.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Sounds like she really despises storebought pies.

Post # 6
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

Sounds like the aunt is friendsies with the cousin’s gf (since she’s probable met her and hung out with her more) and is upset that she isn’t engaged yet. The cousin’s gf probably feels the same. Two years is plenty of time to know each other for marriage, specially if you’ve already been living together for half that time. Ignore them, they’re idiots.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

they already had issue with you but everything got compounded when you said “elope”— not everyone takes kindly to people eloping. Weddings are a big deal. People will react snarkily after you elope, too. So I guess this was good practice. My best advice is to stop tying to befriend those family members, eventually they will or won’t consider you family. And when people hate on you for eloping in the future, calmly remind yourself that this marriage is about you two.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Shrug, be civil, and limit your interactions. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

When I first read this, I also thought the girlfriend +/- the extended family might resent that the cousin hasn’t yet married the girlfriend yet. I also wonder if there are broader philosophical differences that might make them less welcoming of you. 

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