(Closed) Need To Vent!

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don’t go dress shopping with her. Go by yourself. Go with your fiance. Go with some other friends. Just don’t go with your sister.

I know you promised your dad you would try to get along with your sister but it takes two to tango and it takes two to get along. Your sister is not doing her part by trying to keep her unwanted opinions to herself, so you should just remove any situation that could tempt her to run off at the mouth. If she can’t shuttit, then she doesn’t go shopping with you. Period.

 If you try to remove her from your wedding party then you know it is going to cause major family drama so I would just let her keep her title but expect nothing from her, and don’t invite her to anything that could give her the idea of running her mouth. If she gives you crap about what you eat, don’t go out to dinner with her. And so forth.

 

Post # 4
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Keep her to keep the peace in the family but avoid her til day of as much as possible 😀

Post # 5
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would keep her  far away from planning.  I’d pick an UGLY dress for her to wear too!  I’m just mean tho.

Post # 6
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5962 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Getting along with her does not mean joined at the hip, leave her behind on your next EVERYTHING and tell her when and where to pick up her own shit….the next time she starts sounding off about your size, which is fine by the way, you tell her one time, that it’s the LAST time you are willing hear anything of the sort from her, and that if she can’t be a positive and supportive presence for you just now, she can go be somewhere else….I’m sure when your father asked you to try and get along with her, he did not mean at the expense of your own self confidence and peace….

Post # 7
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think she’s your sister and regardless of what your relationship is like, she ultimately wants you to look and feel your best on your day. We all see the “wedding diet” posts and ads everywhere, hell, there are even reality shows about it! You don’t “have” to lose weight if you don’t want to. And you shouldnt do it because someone’s telling you to, or because it’s the “right” thing to do. She’s probably just trying to help, in her twisted way. It’s okay to be overweight – as long as you are healthy- and for many, they just can’t grasp that. Have a serious talk with her, stay calm while doing so, and explain to her your feelings without being upset about it. Some people just don’t understand. 

Post # 9
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

then let’s get her a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress a few sizes smaller than she is currently …. everyone can stand to loose a few pounds right? 

I’d never do this but… meh I don’t have a sister either.

Post # 10
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Id keep her but bump her hatin ass down to a bridesmaid. 

Post # 12
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4478 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Keep her out of as much as possible.

 

And can I say it’s refreshing to see a bride who’s buying in her own size?  The “buying 2 sizes smaller” thing drives me bonkers.

Post # 13
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MissQue_toBe:  Good choice. She is still in the wedding so nothing to complain about there and you finally get to choose someone who is proud of your curves to stand up there for you. 

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